the problem with using passive labelling language to describe relationships, as i have once again discovered, is that unless you detail the label down into the realm of subatomically-miniscule accuracy, there are going to be things you miss communicating to those trying to keep track of what relationships you're including in which buckets, and who ( Read more... )

the current polyamorous_mis article made me laugh out loud this morning.

it starts with, "Oh sure, I’m all for making sure you communicate with your partners, but it just doesn’t have to be some long and torturous ritual that goes on forever under the guise of “well, this must be what it’s like to be poly", and ends with "when other partners see how easy it is ( Read more... )

behavioural patterns are coping mechanisms we develop for specific situations; they become patterns through repeated usage in recurring situations, or in situations that strongly resemble the original situations for which they developed. patterned behaviours start to become ineffective when we start applying them to situations which are ( Read more... )

i have historically taken a very hands-off approach to a primary partner's other relationships (casual or otherwise). i expect to know they exist, i expect to be notified about date scheduling, i expect to remain the primary priority and be respected as such (by both my partner and his lovers); other than that, i generally don't want to know ( Read more... )

(a propos of nothing to do with this post, someday i'll figure out how to make animated icons in GIMP. today is not that day.)

today's internal dialogue with my Self:

Self: so... lemme get this straight. you have the interest and the capacity to date other people, but you're having trouble selecting people who can actually be available to meet ( Read more... )

do something for me, would you ( Read more... )

Washington Post runs a relatively-positive post about poly relationships.

one passage in particular hit me in light of my own recent noodlings about modern therapy:

But as people are increasingly expected to self-actualize clear to the grave, what are the chances that they'll pair up with someone who is on the exact same path of discovery ( Read more... )

thanks to lightcastle for the pointer to the first one:
http://sexgeek.wordpress.com/2007/06/10/10-realistic-rules-for-good-non-monogamous-relationships/

10 realistic rules for good non-monogamous relationships[...] once I started ( Read more... )

( can it really be a tiger changing its stripes?? )

apparently the theme of my life this year is Realignment ( Read more... )