Daily OM: July 4, 2012 ( Read more... )

There is a delightfully trite cliché that insists that the Universe (or God, or Karma, or the Goddess, or whatever your Higher-Authority-of-Choice is) never throws at us more than we can handle, it's only a measure of our willingness to rise to the challenges that makes us grow or keeps us small in those choices ( Read more... )

There is a big difference between objecting (even strenuously) to an object, and objecting to an action or the intention behind it; also, neither objection necessarily constitutes a personal attack ( Read more... )

Today's Daily Om is as good a place to start this as any: ( Read more... )

Rigidity in evolutionary processes is generally perceived to be a BadThingtm over the long term as it forces organic growth into potentially unnatural contortions to conform to structural restrictions. A world of absolutes is a harsh place, however easy it may seem to navigate between clear boundaries, just a world of ambiguity is perhaps a softer ( Read more... )

[Backstory, for those not on FB: My last three payroll deposits have been b0rked by external factors, resulting in three weeks of not-being-paid on time. The firm that recruited me to this contract confirmed this morning that for the second time*, non-payment was the result of local management not approving contractor timecards on time for their ( Read more... )

...score a big win for changing patterns: put the pieces I have together, stew something on the back burner long enough to sort out what I think I needed to say, ask for a chance to say it, listen to the counter perspective, accept where things are different, understand how something undesirable happened (even if the only clear way to fix it is to ( Read more... )

I think it's something about this time of year, in which the changing of the seasons from warm summer and autumn into cold dark winter tends to provoke people into staring down those long frigid months and getting shit off their chests before it festers and drives them into depression with the passing of the sun. Hey, you have your theories for SAD ( Read more... )

matthew and i are working on making explicit our expectations for lovers because, well, we've never really done that before (outside of specific contexts), and we're finding that differing expectations - and therefore differing implementations of those expectations - repeatedly trip us up and catch us with our homework down, as it were ( Read more... )

...it seems inevitable that you will see things you've never seen before. and if you've got little or nothing to which you can compare the vista, it may seem enormous, lacking a comparative scale of measure. ( cut for the 93% of you who don't read relationship essays :) )