Update: state of the Moogie

[the_moogie]

Summary: Things feel good. I am going to work less and enjoy life more. Somehow.

Relationship
For some time now ( I can't even recall how long it's been) things with mr_pugh have been awesome.  The emotional connection is intense, almost mystical and timeless.  Yet being together also been funny and friendly and joyful. As I learn to relax more successfully

Comments

[50_ft_queenie]

So much of this resonates with me.

Tattoos:
My first, and so far, only tattoo was designed by my husband. It's my name in the secret alphabet he designed when he was a kid, and it's tattooed on my back, between my shoulder blades. I love it and had no reservations about getting it done. I went to an artist who used to work at Urban Primitive and now has his own private studio. A friend recommended him and I have since found out that many people I know go to him. He and I met to discuss the artwork and he sent me sketches to look at. Let me know if you'd like his contact info.

Workaholism:

I definitely suffer from this. I constantly feel as though I'm not working hard enough, doing enough etc., and I also have a healthy dose of Impostor's Syndrome, so what I *am* doing isn't good enough either. I also had a childhood where crisis felt normal and my solution has been to address that and the surrounding issues in therapy. It's not fun or easy, but I'm glad I'm doing it.

[misslynx]

Yay for getting to know oneself, and making positive changes in life. Dare I ask if the new resolution for leisure time allows gaming? It isn't work-related and has no deadlines, but does have a schedule of sorts... And I've been wanting to revive our games.

On the tattoo front... Getting names tattooed is generally considered a Bad Idea. Granted, it is less of a Bad Idea when you've been with the person for 17 years than it is if you've only been dating a few months or something, but still... Maybe coming up with an image of some kind that's meaningful to both of you would be a possible alternative? That way, even if the unthinkable were to happen and you two someday split up, you'd still have something reflecting that period of your life, but it wouldn't be quite as obvious to anyone else. The significance would still be there for you, though.

[the_moogie]

Leisure time always allows gaming. Keep me informed.

[the_moogie]

I'm really looking forward to Thunder Bay as well. I like the Valhalla Inn.

I didn't at all mind your workaholic humour. Seeing my workaholicesque friends blaze the trail to having-a-life-town makes it easier for me to follow.

I'll be traveling home from London on the 16th. However, I'd love to do lunch with you. I'm free Wed the 17th, Fri the 19th, Sat the 20th, Sun the 21, and Mon the 22.