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tabloidscully

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Mar 23, 2011 00:15

I'm thinking a lot about stepparenting this week.

( Excuse me, but can you be me for a while? )

p, b, brain dump, sephie, stress, h, thoughts on parenting

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alwaysamommy March 23 2011, 13:31:33 UTC

First of all, we both know that you're not going anywhere, but certain other people need to be reminded that you're not to be taken for granted. They need to be reminded that you take care of H and the office because you WANT to, not because you HAVE to, and if people don't start pitching in and giving you a break, or simply just standing behind you, you're going to figure out a way to leave them hanging just as they've done to you. I'm not saying to go anywhere. Just make them think ( ... )

tabloidscully March 23 2011, 20:50:30 UTC

Thank you. You're absolutely right in that I'm not going anywhere, but I do think that's kind of being taken for granted. That's partially my fault--I believe we teach people how to treat us, and from the very beginning of the business of P's pregnancy, I've put up with their crazy nonsense and kept a lid on my own feelings because I didn't want to jeopardize being back together with B ( ... )

alwaysamommy March 24 2011, 01:32:50 UTC

I do understand the bending over backwards thing. I didn't have a P to compete with. It was his lack of commitment and baggage that I had to compete against, but it ended up being the same way. Then when I started standing up for myself, he definitely had an adjustment period. Now we're on equal footing but it didn't happen easily ( ... )

tabloidscully March 27 2011, 05:28:19 UTC

Believe it or not, I'm constantly looking to you and your entries as kind of a grounding point. From the short time I've known you, I've seen (as much as you can see through someone's LJ, I suppose) you really weather some storms with him that strike pretty close to home. This time two years ago, I remember feeling distinctly that the hurdles with his family would never be overcome. They have, but it took me having B's child and marrying him to do it. I'm not sure I will ever be accepted on my own merits. But seeing you go through what you have gives me hope that even if it doesn't happen, I find the strength to make peace with it ( ... )

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blinkerbook March 23 2011, 21:52:19 UTC

I'm sorry things are so rough these days. Unfortunately, I don't have a lot of advice, what with the not having kids and all. Regarding being sucked into the wife/mother role with no time for politics: What about podcasts? You could listen to them while nursing/doing laundry/working on the website/diapering/etc... Obviously it's not a solution for the

Good luck. *hugs*

tabloidscully March 27 2011, 05:29:03 UTC

That's not a bad idea. Can I admit I have no idea how to access podcasts? I just can't figure it out. I've tried to put movies on my iPod and iPhone and I'm just all thumbs...

blinkerbook March 27 2011, 17:19:43 UTC

Wow, I totally did not finish that comment, did I? And now of course I don't remember what I was going to say.

Re: podcasts- I don't have an ipod, just a generic mp3 player, so I'm not very adept with itunes. I don't have a podcast subscriber, I just click on the "Download to your computer or your preferred device" button. It doesn't update automatically, but it works.

Here's the NPR podcast site: http://www.npr.org/rss/podcast/podcast_directory.php?type=topic&id=-1

heartem March 24 2011, 01:05:59 UTC

Yes, less than ideal, but just because Brian and I are not in a relationship together doesn't mean I will or can't ever see you. Why don't we have a date night every week or every other week (when P has H) and we can get together while the boys are at class?? I'll come up and visit. I miss you, too!

tabloidscully March 27 2011, 05:30:46 UTC

That's an awesome suggestion, because believe me when I say that I miss you so much, it really hurts! I even miss Atticus a bit, ha, though I think Savannah misses him more. She's been extra-moody with Little Bit.

Anyway, I think the date night thing would be best every other weekend or so. Thanks, love. :)

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tabloidscully March 27 2011, 05:40:15 UTC

This comment is EXACTLY what I needed. Thank you. I feel like some days I just need someone to pat me on the back and tell me that I'm doing a great job. I know on many levels, I am, but it can be so overwhelming and seem so bleak when you're in the middle of it ( ... )