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An Observed List of How Intelligent New Age Guys Respond to Burns Due to Privilege
No matter who you are, when you get called out on your privilege and realize you've been an ignorant jackass to people, it's embarrassing. It shakes your self-image as a good person. It makes you feel small and stupid. Also, now you can't just rely upon your own good sense any more. Because you might not have the experience to make any sort of ( Read more... ) -
The Golden Rule Pits Religious People Against the Weird
So, I notice that almost all people have this self-image that they are good people. They do their best. They're fair and reasonably nice. They follow the golden rule for the most part, sort of. Y'know, like everybody ( Read more... ) -
Hire Me
I'm betting you don't need this rant, but just on principle: “You know, you might be one of the luckiest women in the world right now. You managed to find two men who are not only willing but want you to make your own decisions ( Read more... ) -
Internet Mobs and Having a Voice
I've been thinking about people in power who have apologized after their poor actions were criticized on the internet. I've been thinking about this dynamic: "internet mobs" and "non-apologies" and harassment. I've been reflecting on shirtstorm and the Boston lawyer bullying the takeout place, and Bill Cosby and campus rape and gamergate.
I've been ( Read more... ) -
People Invite My Rapist
Sometimes, I am a right cynical bitch. I try not to expect better of people than I know them to be capable of. I figure if I get hurt by someone who I should have known would act that way, yeah, that's maybe on them, but I was stupid not to have expected it and should try to be smarter ( Read more... ) -
On "I Have a Boyfriend"
So, I have been reading the mini-debate around the internet over whether women should be more honest and straightforward when they turn down men, particularly that they stop using the excuse "I have a boyfriend" as a handy shorthand for "I'm not interested." Folks have pointed out that this excuse is only useful because creepers respect other men ( Read more... ) -
Hey, was that everyday sexism?
I had an encounter of everyday sexism today. It didn't actually much register with me because I was just bopping along my day ( Read more... ) -
Mommydom
My son sometimes lets me know I'm being bossy and he doesn't like it. Some days, I take this with a grain of salt, but I can't say I take it on any day without sympathy. Kids need some bossing, but it isn't very fun to be on the receiving end. I want my kid to have faith in my leadership, not (just) resent it ( Read more... ) -
Bravery, Public Service and Priority
My last post about getting harassed at Arisia went viral, and I had my first experience with internet fame ( Read more... ) -
Q and A: Who are you now?
I have changed. I answer questions differently. This was made apparent to me by an experience this weekend at Arisia, a sci-fi and fandom convention in Boston, MA ( Read more... )