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"It has been zero days since our last accident."
This entry is from three or four months ago.
I went out to dinner with a best friend and an old friend last week. I told my old friend that I had been raped two years ago by my housemate. While he was expressing his condolences, I told him not to worry too much because it was long ago and it had been a month and a half since I last had any ( Read more... ) -
Two Years Ago Today
Two years ago today a bad thing happened to me. I've been waiting to write about it because I was scared and I wasn't ready. I'm still scared about outing myself and the others involved, but then I remember what it meant to me to read other people's stories when I felt alone. And I remember that I would rather not be silent ( Read more... ) -
Predator/Prey vs. Inquiry/Consent
We have a predator/prey vision of sexuality. Male sexuality is characterized as predatory and acquisitive. Women are characterized as receiver/prey/gatekeeper. In this dynamic, entitlement for men is encouraged, for how do you pursue if you do not feel entitled to your prize? How could you fail to see the gatekeeper of sexuality as an enemy to be ( Read more... ) -
Hypothetical
Hm. I just thought of an interesting hypothetical. Consider this: abortion is illegal, but science has made it possible for men to carry children. If a woman decides she would rather not, she may forcibly transfer her pregnancy to the father. He will face the same odds for complication and death, there is no consideration of his health or consent, ( Read more... ) -
What Happened That You Didn't Know
After a house meeting, my ex and I chatted about various options for housing after our shared house sold. I talked about getting a condo and mentioned my price range, which my ex felt was too low. I explained I wanted to have a year's worth of salary on hand for my son and that I would need a new car pretty soon. I also mentioned that I didn't want ( Read more... ) -
Remember 2012
You do not care to be loved piecemeal ( Read more... ) -
Rape Culture
Talked with a friend about culture jokes. He was trying to defend his pure motives and criticize our culture's over-sensitivity to offense. I roared him down for defending blackface, so he retreated to misogyny by relaying a funny joke "why was Helen Keller a terrible driver. Because she was a woman." I laughed. Then I stopped laughing and told him ( Read more... ) -
List
Things going on right now ( Read more... ) -
The Sea and Pieces of Me
Friendship has ceased to be a life-raft, grabbing flotsam and jetsam and lashing it firmly together to make something steady against the storm. In that scenario, a big and sturdy raft is the winner. You tie your friends into their neat little places and that raft is your pride and joy, your proof that there is something worthy in you. And you ( Read more... ) -
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Goals from 2010 ( Read more... )