Hi. I'm the person who posted a link to your last LJ post into the Arisia Fans Facebook group. I did this after I asked shadesong whether this would be a good idea, and she said it was. Did I do something wrong?
Most of the people in that discussion, before it got deleted, supported you.
Nah. I appreciate the support by cross-posting, and I still support the mods decision (which was rightfully theirs) to not host that discussion. It was someone else who referenced a comment from my facebook page and put me at risk.
Frankly, I'm glad it was up, even for a little while, and generated some buzz amongst the community. It was a good discussion to start. Dustin deserves some notoriety amongst people who care about Arisia, and thankfully I am well aware that most of my community has my back on this one.
You didn't do anything wrong. Frankly, if I had a twistpeach facebook identity, I'd be out there with a flamethrower myself. :D
One comment I've seen: the newsworthy part of your story isn't that you were molested by a creeper. That's totally "normal" in our community.
The newsworthy part isn't that a target spoke out. It DOES happen sometimes that a woman who's been molested will out her attacker. Not all the time, because it exposes the woman to further attacks. But it does happen.
The newsworthy part isn't that the creeper's been shunned since it came out that he's a creeper. Plenty of people are willing to shun a single individual to prove that THEY'RE not bad people -- remember how they shunned that guy? but nonetheless allow things to happen systemically.
No, the newsworthy part is that the organization took the situation seriously as a matter of policy, and the shunning happened as a consequence of an institutional policy -- that the target was able to speak out because she KNEW that the organization would take the situation seriously as a matter of policy. That she -- you -- had a way of simply handing the problem off to people who's job it
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The deciding factor for me to pass this along was simple -- the comment about the lass with narcolepsy and sleep paralysis. I've had a history of sleep paralysis, and it is scary enough as-is. I've watched myself claw my face apart trying to wake myself up, unable to move, unable to wake. I've watched loved ones trying to kill me, unable to move, unable to wake. That's dead scary enough without some creeper trying to touch your bits! So yes, while I appreciate that's not a fully validated report, if it's true and it's likely it's true based on what others have said -- I want to make very sure he is completely unable to do this to anyone else again.
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Most of the people in that discussion, before it got deleted, supported you.
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Frankly, I'm glad it was up, even for a little while, and generated some buzz amongst the community. It was a good discussion to start. Dustin deserves some notoriety amongst people who care about Arisia, and thankfully I am well aware that most of my community has my back on this one.
You didn't do anything wrong. Frankly, if I had a twistpeach facebook identity, I'd be out there with a flamethrower myself. :D
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The newsworthy part isn't that a target spoke out. It DOES happen sometimes that a woman who's been molested will out her attacker. Not all the time, because it exposes the woman to further attacks. But it does happen.
The newsworthy part isn't that the creeper's been shunned since it came out that he's a creeper. Plenty of people are willing to shun a single individual to prove that THEY'RE not bad people -- remember how they shunned that guy? but nonetheless allow things to happen systemically.
No, the newsworthy part is that the organization took the situation seriously as a matter of policy, and the shunning happened as a consequence of an institutional policy -- that the target was able to speak out because she KNEW that the organization would take the situation seriously as a matter of policy. That she -- you -- had a way of simply handing the problem off to people who's job it ( ... )
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*fails because what you said is perfect*
*remains silent*
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The deciding factor for me to pass this along was simple -- the comment about the lass with narcolepsy and sleep paralysis. I've had a history of sleep paralysis, and it is scary enough as-is. I've watched myself claw my face apart trying to wake myself up, unable to move, unable to wake. I've watched loved ones trying to kill me, unable to move, unable to wake. That's dead scary enough without some creeper trying to touch your bits! So yes, while I appreciate that's not a fully validated report, if it's true and it's likely it's true based on what others have said -- I want to make very sure he is completely unable to do this to anyone else again.
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