Dilemma

[zoocoyote]

So...my female friend kissed me tonight, rather unexpectedly. Which means I am going to have to make a choice. Do I remain true to myself and my nature? Or do I follow society's norms with a girl who I definitely have some feelings for

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[crystal_waters]

[hastka]

Members of the same species are all around, and while it's sort of easier to find them at school, I dunno. I wouldn't use that as an excuse to jump in on one. Many people make the first-time "hey someone likes me, <3 <3 <3" mistake, so while I don't really know you that well, my default advice would be to caution you to you assess your thoughts and go from there. ;) That said, nothing wrong with a "brief encounter" either. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

Similar thoughts on the "first time" thing. Don't hold the human race against people who are from it. ;) But opportunities are what they are. I had "first time" inclinations that I *still* haven't lived up to, just because the opportunity isn't there. But I will say, if you're inclined at all toward human females, there are TONS of them out there looking for males so that particular side of sexuality should probably be the least of your worries. ;)

[zoocoyote]

Guess I understand your reasoning, and generally follow it (in that I don't troll around parties to find drunken hookups, because even though I probably could, that just seems meaningless to me). The friend in question is someone I've known since before the start of college, and have been good friends with since sophomore year, so I feel like that's a bit different. We also have a fair bit in common, including to some extent our views on how fucked up most of humanity is

[hastka]

Hehe :) Well, nothing wrong with "mutually pleasurable experiences" as long as both people are expecting nothing more than that. I got the impression reading your last couple posts on the topic that she may be interested in more of a "relationship"(tm

[wildw0lf]

If you to do end up really getting close, I'd let her know...you wouldn't want her to be surprised later...

[zoocoyote]

I totally agree with you...though I can be social with people for a while, the thought of a years-long relationship with a human is terrifying. I'd go nuts. And again, this is with somebody I really care about, and who I've been close friends with for a couple of years. I'm just not wired for long-term human relationships (nor short-term, really, though I can manage with that).

But again, with graduation approaching rapidly, and with both of us planning to move back to our respective homes that are a considerable distance apart, it's pretty unlikely that things will be lasting longer than two months or so. We'll surely keep in touch, and might be able to visit each other for a few days next year, but that'll probably be about the extent of it.

And if things do last longer, for some reason...then yes, I will have to bring up certain relevant issues.