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Pregnant Bridesmaid

Apr 22, 2012 22:05

So I just found out one of my bridesmaids is pregnant and she isn't sure when here due date is yet but we do know she'll be between 7-9 months at the time of my wedding. I'm not going to ask her to step down but I do admit I am a bit worried. Mainly because I'm going to be having a Vegas wedding, the bridal party is going to be doing a lot of ( Read more... )

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neko038 April 23 2012, 10:20:46 UTC

She may have to step down jut based on travel. Many airlines won't let you fly and your doctors after 32 weeks, so if she is close she may have trouble there. Also, I was just in a wedding and was 32 weeks pregnant at the time, and I only had to stand for 45 minutes and that alone was hard, two hours walking around Vegas I could not imagine.
:(
On the dress not much in the way of suggestions other than to have her in the same color as everyone else if she can stay in the wedding party.
Crys

herladyship April 23 2012, 14:31:09 UTC

I agree - you can't fly in your third trimester. I would say she's almost certainly not going to be able to attend.

If she's not as far along and she thinks and she CAN attend it for some reason, I would just match the colour and hemline.

novas April 23 2012, 16:13:58 UTC

She's in AZ so I'm pretty sure she'll drive down. Yeah this is a really tough situation. I'm so confused by it right now.

lunarophelia April 23 2012, 17:32:53 UTC

You can fly within the US until 39 weeks. My son was born in Alaska. The midwives/OBs where I was seen recommended not flying outside of Alaska beyond 36 weeks just because that can easily be a 10 hour flight ( ... )

blessedrelease April 23 2012, 11:37:09 UTC

I don't know what I'd do. The problem with the dresses is just that you have no idea what her body will be like at that time. My sister(s) at 6 months was gigantic and would probably have looked like a sausage in that dress (I'm fairly confident that is a family trait and that I will be the biggest of all, so don't take that comment as too mean),but my sister in law at 9 months would still have looked cute in that dress, though the waist would probably have been a bit higher or something.

But I can also say that my mom and sister went to Vegas during their pregnancies and pretty much were miserable. But this was the summer (end of August?) so I don't know how bad it would be at other times. But the walking around thing...yeah, I think you already know how she'll feel about that.

So...basically I'm not any help and I sympathise with you. I'd see if she's wanting to step down on her own before I stress about the dresses.

novas April 23 2012, 16:17:32 UTC

At this point it doesn't sound like she's wanting to step down. We're going to wait until she has an exact due date to talk to her about it again but if she's closer to the 8 months I'm really going to talk to her about it with her because all the walking in Vegas wouldn't be very safe for her or her baby, especially with a 1st pregnancy. So hopefully we can figure out something by the end of the week so I can potentially start looking for dresses.

lunarophelia April 23 2012, 17:34:15 UTC

Walking is seriously one of the best things you can do for yourself and your baby during your pregnancy. Just don't expect her to stay at your reception to the bitter end. You could also car a small folding chair/stool for her to rest on at each of your stops.

beautifulriot April 23 2012, 12:41:17 UTC

she needs to find out when she is due. There is a big difference between 7 months and 9 months as far as ability to fly, do the walking stuff, etc. Depending on when you're getting married, the walking around Vegas thing could be a pain, but still doable. I wouldn't want to be walking around Vegas in the summer for two hours in an organza dress whether I was pregnant or not, but in the cooler season there is no reason it can't be done by someone in their third trimester ( ... )

novas April 23 2012, 16:22:03 UTC

I don't think I could have them in the same shoes mainly because everyone was planning on wearing heels and preferred heels but obviously a 7 month pregnant woman probably wouldn't enjoy that lol. The thing is I tend to worry about making other's happy before myself and deciding what I want so I'm stressing about a million different things. Really annoying habit of mine.

beautifulriot April 23 2012, 21:57:07 UTC

Can I just be honest for a second? I read through the other responses and it sounds like YOU don't want her to be in your wedding anymore. I was picking that up from the original post which is why I said to decide what you want but I guess I should be more blunt ( ... )

novas April 24 2012, 00:58:22 UTC

To be quite honest I didn't want more than 2 bridesmaids to begin with. I only wanted 2 of the people that I'm closest to and that is my sister and my cousin. However, my mom from the very beginning of planning had basically said she's not paying for the wedding unless my 2 brothers were in the wedding party and to make things a little more even considering my fiancé really wanted his 2 brothers and his nephews in it, I just asked her. No idea why but I'm one of those people who likes things to be even.

Like I said I'm not going to tell her to drop out of the wedding but at the same time in all honesty yes I'd rather her not be in it. Not because she won't look good in a dress or my dresses won't match but because I'm honestly worried about how she'll be able to handle the day (for some reason I always think of worst case scenario), it's not about how it will look or me being worried about her taking the attention away from me or whatever. Yes it's important to me, but I have been searching around for different options for dresses. ( ... )

redfield79 April 23 2012, 13:25:57 UTC

Ahhh my best friend was 7 months day of and she was ammmmmazing! Bridal shower and bach. Party. they will do what they can but so rude to ask to step down. :( who cares if she can't come to parties...important thing is shes up there with you day of. :)

redfield79 April 23 2012, 13:29:20 UTC

Db has pregnancy pillows for trying on dresses. But I can tell this dress won't be possible. :(

redfield79 April 23 2012, 17:30:11 UTC

Also, there was a lot of walking and standing and my best friend/moh did really well. She danced and everything! She was 4 days late too hehe. She popped up to my hotel room and layed in bed for an hour or so. My wedding was at 11am and she hung around even at the after party until around 10pm ( ... )

fuckedbeauty April 23 2012, 15:09:06 UTC

Honestly if I were 7 to 9 months pregnant I wouldn't want to be in the wedding. However, she may not realize this now. So be prepared for the possibility of her dropping out closer to the date. She may be totally fine with it, but keep in mind... lots of walking and stress can induce labor as well... and if she is 9 months.... eep ( ... )

novas April 23 2012, 16:12:14 UTC

I know this and a few people have mentioned this to her (not even me, I haven't talked to her yet) but I know very well it can induce labor as I have a child and I remember being 7-9 months I just sat at home all day and I even hated just walking around the mall for 30 minute.

Oh and I know she won't be able to do much at a bachelorette party, she couldn't have gone anyhow, she'll only be 20 at the time.

Thank you for the advice, I appreciate it.