She seems to like the "brutal honesty," on the grounds that she never has to guess what he's thinking or wonder if he's lying to her. And he makes her laugh.
Apparently there's a medical reason he's a douchebag, and he's told her he feels bad about it, so I guess that's okay then.
OH, Duckie. I have great experience in disliking people. Truly, I do. To do it properly, you must at least get to know them on an individual basis. You can't simply see Hannah MOntana on TV and say, "I hate her," and have any validity (though, I do hate Hannah Montana but
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It turns out this guy has a doctor's note for any charges of asshattery: three years ago, he was in a very serious car accident and suffered a brain injury that has made it very hard for him to edit what comes out of his mouth or realize its effect on people. Apparently he hates this about himself, but I'll have to take Lizz's word for that, as he never once apologized during the course of the conversation.
I still don't feel bad.
I asked Lizz at dinner tonight: "The entire time he was here, could he allow any other two people to have a conversation that wasn't about him? The entire time he was here, did anything genuinely kind come out of his mouth?"
He should be kicked to the curb, phone number blocked, deleted from all friends lists and such within the same 60 second period of time.I told her he was bad news, and I didn't like him, but she's a big girl and can do as she likes. If it makes her happy, I'm happy for her, and I'll do my best to be civil to him. I just really wish she'd run the other way
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It turns out this guy has a doctor's note for any charges of asshattery: three years ago, he was in a very serious car accident and suffered a brain injury that has made it very hard for him to edit what comes out of his mouth. Apparently he hates this about himself, but I'll have to take Lizz's word for that, as he never once apologized during the course of the conversation.
I still don't feel bad. The problem wasn't the lack of a filter; occasional faux pas or awkwardness could be tolerated for a good guy with a problem. The problem was that, uncensored, he's not a good guy.
But anyway, I can't stand people who say they are honest and direct when really they're just fudging rude. Honesty is an attitude of fair dealing with people, not a blank check to shoot your mouth off. I wish more people understood this. (And I wish more guys understood that "I'm busy, no thanks," is not a personal and permanent judgment of their worth as a person. *sigh*)
Because can you imagine if she had taken him to say...a work or school function?
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You're right. Not having a filter doesn't change the person behind what he said. I mean, if I couldn't filter right, I'd probably have a few sordid tales but nothing so jerkish.
She probably should have warned you ahead of time and you may have seen him in a different light.
I'm not sure I could deal with that level of dreckitude hiding behind a disability.
I don't know how things are between you and Lizz, but tread lightly with your comments about asshole. Things like this are subject to bites in the ass. *nods*
We were able to talk about it very honestly, actually. She and I both tend to sneak off and ask each other, "So what do you think of him?" in the kitchen like a couple of eighth grade girls.
I told her I don't like him, he's bad news, and he's a fucking mess. But she's a big girl and can date whomever she likes - as long as it makes her happy, I'll be happy for her. And I'll do my best to be civil to the bastard.
Pat was wise enough to keep his opinions to himself. *sigh*
WOW. I have met some losers in my time, but this guy seems to give a new definition to the word "asswipe." I think you get bonus points for not punching him in the head.
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I don't think I could have remained in the room. So you get points from me for self-control.
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Apparently there's a medical reason he's a douchebag, and he's told her he feels bad about it, so I guess that's okay then.
*facepalm*
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I still don't feel bad.
I asked Lizz at dinner tonight: "The entire time he was here, could he allow any other two people to have a conversation that wasn't about him? The entire time he was here, did anything genuinely kind come out of his mouth?"
He should be kicked to the curb, phone number blocked, deleted from all friends lists and such within the same 60 second period of time.I told her he was bad news, and I didn't like him, but she's a big girl and can do as she likes. If it makes her happy, I'm happy for her, and I'll do my best to be civil to him. I just really wish she'd run the other way ( ... )
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I still don't feel bad. The problem wasn't the lack of a filter; occasional faux pas or awkwardness could be tolerated for a good guy with a problem. The problem was that, uncensored, he's not a good guy.
But anyway, I can't stand people who say they are honest and direct when really they're just fudging rude.
Honesty is an attitude of fair dealing with people, not a blank check to shoot your mouth off. I wish more people understood this. (And I wish more guys understood that "I'm busy, no thanks," is not a personal and permanent judgment of their worth as a person. *sigh*)
Because can you imagine if she had taken him to say...a work or school function? ( ... )
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She probably should have warned you ahead of time and you may have seen him in a different light.
I'm not sure I could deal with that level of dreckitude hiding behind a disability.
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I don't know how things are between you and Lizz, but tread lightly with your comments about asshole. Things like this are subject to bites in the ass. *nods*
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I told her I don't like him, he's bad news, and he's a fucking mess. But she's a big girl and can date whomever she likes - as long as it makes her happy, I'll be happy for her. And I'll do my best to be civil to the bastard.
Pat was wise enough to keep his opinions to himself. *sigh*
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Krav Maga, bitch. Watch how you treat my Lizz.
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