"He is also one of those insufferable assholes who take pride in "complete honesty," regardless of tact, courtesy, or relevance."
I cannot abide people like this. I am a really frank and direct person. To the point that some people do occasionally take offense. But over things like me saying to a guy I'm dating "I don't want to hang out tonight. I have things to do." And the guy replying "why don't you like me?!!! CRY CRY. But anyway, I can't stand people who say they are honest and direct when really they're just fudging rude.
First of all, religion and politics are not to be discussed at the dinner table. Your sexual exploits can be added to that list. And I know its rude to tell someone their rude but this sounds like the type of person I would very much enjoy telling to shut the fuck up.
It is quite alright to dislike people. You can't and won't like everyone and not everyone will like you. That's just the world. Come sit by me for a while. I've learned that about 90% of people do not deserve to be disliked.
But this guy? EW. Plus was he a guest in y'alls home? DOUBLE EW. Its rude. If he does it again don't argue any of beliefs or anything with him. Just tell him he's a guest in your home and he's being incredibly rude. Or better yet, remove him from the invite list.
Also, let your friend know, in a supportive way, that this guy makes you murderous. You will have to put up with a lot of douches, assholes, bitches and motherfuckers who are dating friends and family and mostly you kind of have to suck it up and deal because that's what being a friend/family is. (Until physical/mental harm comes into it of course.) But, you can still let her know that this guy is embarrassing to her. Because can you imagine if she had taken him to say...a work or school function? Embarrassing.
Also, he's clearly dumb because dumb people pepper their conversations with pseudo intellectual crap. His level of insecurity is also astounding. But again, don't argue points with him. Just point out what a rude douche he is.
It turns out this guy has a doctor's note for any charges of asshattery: three years ago, he was in a very serious car accident and suffered a brain injury that has made it very hard for him to edit what comes out of his mouth. Apparently he hates this about himself, but I'll have to take Lizz's word for that, as he never once apologized during the course of the conversation.
I still don't feel bad. The problem wasn't the lack of a filter; occasional faux pas or awkwardness could be tolerated for a good guy with a problem. The problem was that, uncensored, he's not a good guy.
But anyway, I can't stand people who say they are honest and direct when really they're just fudging rude. Honesty is an attitude of fair dealing with people, not a blank check to shoot your mouth off. I wish more people understood this. (And I wish more guys understood that "I'm busy, no thanks," is not a personal and permanent judgment of their worth as a person. *sigh*)
Because can you imagine if she had taken him to say...a work or school function? Embarrassing. Worst part is, she doesn't seem to think so. He makes her laugh, and she never has to worry that he's lying to her.
You're right. Not having a filter doesn't change the person behind what he said. I mean, if I couldn't filter right, I'd probably have a few sordid tales but nothing so jerkish.
She probably should have warned you ahead of time and you may have seen him in a different light.
I'm not sure I could deal with that level of dreckitude hiding behind a disability.
I cannot abide people like this. I am a really frank and direct person. To the point that some people do occasionally take offense. But over things like me saying to a guy I'm dating "I don't want to hang out tonight. I have things to do." And the guy replying "why don't you like me?!!! CRY CRY. But anyway, I can't stand people who say they are honest and direct when really they're just fudging rude.
First of all, religion and politics are not to be discussed at the dinner table. Your sexual exploits can be added to that list. And I know its rude to tell someone their rude but this sounds like the type of person I would very much enjoy telling to shut the fuck up.
It is quite alright to dislike people. You can't and won't like everyone and not everyone will like you. That's just the world. Come sit by me for a while. I've learned that about 90% of people do not deserve to be disliked.
But this guy? EW. Plus was he a guest in y'alls home? DOUBLE EW. Its rude. If he does it again don't argue any of beliefs or anything with him. Just tell him he's a guest in your home and he's being incredibly rude. Or better yet, remove him from the invite list.
Also, let your friend know, in a supportive way, that this guy makes you murderous. You will have to put up with a lot of douches, assholes, bitches and motherfuckers who are dating friends and family and mostly you kind of have to suck it up and deal because that's what being a friend/family is. (Until physical/mental harm comes into it of course.) But, you can still let her know that this guy is embarrassing to her. Because can you imagine if she had taken him to say...a work or school function? Embarrassing.
Also, he's clearly dumb because dumb people pepper their conversations with pseudo intellectual crap. His level of insecurity is also astounding. But again, don't argue points with him. Just point out what a rude douche he is.
Oi. I'd probably lose my cool and punch the guy.
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I still don't feel bad. The problem wasn't the lack of a filter; occasional faux pas or awkwardness could be tolerated for a good guy with a problem. The problem was that, uncensored, he's not a good guy.
But anyway, I can't stand people who say they are honest and direct when really they're just fudging rude.
Honesty is an attitude of fair dealing with people, not a blank check to shoot your mouth off. I wish more people understood this. (And I wish more guys understood that "I'm busy, no thanks," is not a personal and permanent judgment of their worth as a person. *sigh*)
Because can you imagine if she had taken him to say...a work or school function? Embarrassing.
Worst part is, she doesn't seem to think so. He makes her laugh, and she never has to worry that he's lying to her.
*facepalm*
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She probably should have warned you ahead of time and you may have seen him in a different light.
I'm not sure I could deal with that level of dreckitude hiding behind a disability.
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