Barry Keoghan Admits He Doesn't Have a 'Normal Father-Son Relationship' with 2-Year-Old Son Brando

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'Bird' and 'Bring Them Down' star Barry Keoghan tells Entertainment Weekly he doesn't have a 'normal father-son relationship' with his child because he 'didn't have a father figure growing up.' https://t.co/oZOhYJQvoP
- Entertainment Weekly (@EW) September 13, 2024
Barry Keoghan revealed he doesn’t have a “normal father-son relationship” with his 2-

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[genbu_no_miko24]

I do sympathize with his upbringing cause I did notice there's never mention of his dad, and his mom passing away when he was 12 is pretty rough.

That said lol we all know theres some previous tea lol.

[aristobrit]

I'm sure there are things he could do but he had a horrific childhood. He never had a dad and his mother was a drug addict who OD'd when he was 12. He was shuffled thru 13 foster homes, I can't even imagine what that would be like. Evidently he never had a male role model and it looks like he hasn't had therapy to deal with it.

I hope he figures it out before it's too late for his son.

[thankyounotes]

I feel like this is key context. Obv not everyone with a traumatic childhood goes on to do the same and it wouldn't be an excuse if he is actually a deadbeat, but kids having positive role models is a big deal and is how we learn how to cope and process so it doesn't surprise me at all if he feels like a fish out of water. I don't think anything he said in that snippet implies anything negative

[howlin_wolf_66]

He even specifically addressed that it wasn't about any lack of 'love' - he just doesn't have the framework to be used to the practical necessities.

[screw_reality]

Do you have other men in your life that you look up to, go to for advice? Mentor types. Hell, even male friends your own age who also have kids can be a resource. The maternal grandfather… if he doesn’t hate you. You could even take parenting advice from women and not die.

[marywebgirl]

Colin Farrell is right there!

[my_moloko]

It actually makes me sad that he has been struggling in this regard because I feel like Colin was such an excellent role model for him in regards to getting sober and being a good dad. I hope he can talk some sense into him.

[fraises]

Hahah honey that's why you go to therapy before breeding.

[lurkurheartout]

i'm so sick of men making excuses of why they can't be good fathers because of xyz. step the fuck up and be a fucking man.

[lanrek]

yepppppp. my mom had a shitty mom and she was a great mom to me.

my dad had a shitty dad and he’s also been shitty.

the lesson here is men aint shit

[squirrels_oh_no]

If you think you can't be a father, I have a solution.

Don't procreate.

[deerlike]

tbh one of the main reasons why I've never had a kid is because I'm too afraid of being a bad parent to them, like my then inexperienced parents dealing with their own childhood trauma (my mother especially) were to me. So this is me breaking that cycle.

[umilicious]

He’s talking about it in the context of his film, not his kid:

"Going into this [film], I didn't have that [normal experience], so it's a very brother-sister kind of chemistry going on [for Bug and Bailey], which I felt was right for it," he said. "And you see that these days - there's a lot of young fathers out there and young mothers and they're almost like sibling-like, you know what I mean? Which is beautiful."

… but I have to disagree with him on the healthiness of a sibling-like relationship with a child. I struggled that to an extent as a young mother, but realized that you can be a parent AND empathetic to the childhood experience. Instead of trying to be peers or friends with kids, we as parents should do our best to be present and protect our kids from generational trauma. So many parents repeat the mistakes their parents made because it’s all they know, even if they recognize how much it harmed them.

[tekan]

It's akin to the being their best friend, that's not the way you want to go.