Mila Kunis shares the 'parenting fail' her husband Ashton Kutcher called her out over

[just444]

The actress said that she doesn't always see eye-to-eye with her significant other when it comes to parenting. https://t.co/V80EfWQZdE
- ABC News (@ABC) October 21, 2021

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While on Ellen DeGeneres' Mom Confessions Mila talked about a situation with daughter Wyatt she and Ashton had different conflict resolution strategies for

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[maidenhell]

Teachers did nothing about the bullies in my school too (elementary, junior and high school). I always kept quiet and tried to ignore it ... but stuff like that can stay with you for the rest of your life. Knowing I had a trusted adult who could have helped would have meant the world to me back then and given me a greater sense of belonging rather than feeling like I was thrown to the wolves.

[jjazz59]

The same thing happened to me. Teachers were no help at all.

[pseudonygma]

IA. My dad knew I was being bullied (surely, my mom *must* have told him) and said nothing, no even to console me. His cashier on the other hand, actually went on the school bus to yell at those kids (she was the one who picked me up at the bus stop). Lucky for them, they were absent that day but it's the thought that counts, tbqh.

My mom told me that she complained to my school but I don't think it made a difference until after Christmas. At the time, I was convinced that the bullying stopped because I got a haircut and so they didn't recognize me, lol.

[doriiansz]

Showering their kids?

[mangosmuggler]

Bullshit, a bullied child has to handle it themselves. “Tell a teacher” is so naive - they usually don’t give a shit about victims of bullying. How many times have we seen children KILL THEMSELVES because none of the teachers or school officials did anything???? Plus, how likely is it that someone who decides to get physical will be open to listening to reason??

[veggie]

literally, i was bullied RELENTLESSLY by my peers in 6th grade and my teacher was, bizarrely, an active participant lmao. like are there good teachers? yes. but is it smart to advise your kids to rely on teachers to solve their interpersonal issues with peers? no!!! there are tons of bad teachers who are also shitty people! and even if the teacher is a Good Person, chances are they are insanely overworked and don't have the bandwidth to handle every issue brought to them by their students.

in my specific experience i wish my mom had advocated for me more (like, at least spoken to my teacher or principal or something). like kids are really self-sufficient in a lot of ways but i didn't have the life experience to understand why a group of my classmates and a teacher were being so cruel to me, so i really internalized it in a lot of ways and felt like it was my fault. kids really need a reliable parent/guardian who is in their corner to protect them from that kind of abuse, i don't think they should be directed to teachers

[shastafay]

a kid will go from picked on once or twice to downright bullied reaaal fast if they don't assert themselves. and this is not me blaming the poor bullied kids, but saying that teaching your kid basic self-preservation should be among a parent's top priorities, and sometimes that's literally pushing another kid back to make clear that you're not gonna be docile & submissive to their bullshit.

(also, i have complicated feelings abt tell the teacher / don't tell the teacher tbh, bc on one hand i think unserious conflict is best solved among kids, but on the other hand it's the type of ingrained stigmatizing shit that will prevent kids & adults from asking for help later on, so)

[jmfunnyface]

It is wildly naive. My nephew was consistently bullied for two years because he's the shortest kid in the class, and the school did absolutely nothing about it even when they had things on video, and the parents were like "kids will be kids. Don't be so sensitive."

So my nephew learned to box & got a punching bag for Christmas last year. We spoke to him that hitting is a defensive action, not an offensive action. And when a kid pushed him to the ground in the hallway, my nephew got up and cold cocked the kid. Yes, he got suspended, but you know what? No one has put a hand on him since.

[champagnexdream]

I would prob have said the same thing Mila did instinctually tbh. But I also grew up in mid city New Orleans and my teachers wouldn’t have done much lol

[toomuchtimelol]

Honestly, push her back is great advice. When you’re young you don’t really know how to defend yourself with words, and if you don’t defend yourself it can turn into a pattern of being passive and tolerant of people’s BS. So until they learn how to argue with their words, pushing is a great way to assert boundaries. Go Mila’s kid! Get that bully.