Mila Kunis shares the 'parenting fail' her husband Ashton Kutcher called her out over

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The actress said that she doesn't always see eye-to-eye with her significant other when it comes to parenting. https://t.co/V80EfWQZdE
- ABC News (@ABC) October 21, 2021

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While on Ellen DeGeneres' Mom Confessions Mila talked about a situation with daughter Wyatt she and Ashton had different conflict resolution strategies for

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[mangosmuggler]

Bullshit, a bullied child has to handle it themselves. “Tell a teacher” is so naive - they usually don’t give a shit about victims of bullying. How many times have we seen children KILL THEMSELVES because none of the teachers or school officials did anything???? Plus, how likely is it that someone who decides to get physical will be open to listening to reason??

[veggie]

literally, i was bullied RELENTLESSLY by my peers in 6th grade and my teacher was, bizarrely, an active participant lmao. like are there good teachers? yes. but is it smart to advise your kids to rely on teachers to solve their interpersonal issues with peers? no!!! there are tons of bad teachers who are also shitty people! and even if the teacher is a Good Person, chances are they are insanely overworked and don't have the bandwidth to handle every issue brought to them by their students.

in my specific experience i wish my mom had advocated for me more (like, at least spoken to my teacher or principal or something). like kids are really self-sufficient in a lot of ways but i didn't have the life experience to understand why a group of my classmates and a teacher were being so cruel to me, so i really internalized it in a lot of ways and felt like it was my fault. kids really need a reliable parent/guardian who is in their corner to protect them from that kind of abuse, i don't think they should be directed to teachers

[shastafay]

a kid will go from picked on once or twice to downright bullied reaaal fast if they don't assert themselves. and this is not me blaming the poor bullied kids, but saying that teaching your kid basic self-preservation should be among a parent's top priorities, and sometimes that's literally pushing another kid back to make clear that you're not gonna be docile & submissive to their bullshit.

(also, i have complicated feelings abt tell the teacher / don't tell the teacher tbh, bc on one hand i think unserious conflict is best solved among kids, but on the other hand it's the type of ingrained stigmatizing shit that will prevent kids & adults from asking for help later on, so)

[jmfunnyface]

It is wildly naive. My nephew was consistently bullied for two years because he's the shortest kid in the class, and the school did absolutely nothing about it even when they had things on video, and the parents were like "kids will be kids. Don't be so sensitive."

So my nephew learned to box & got a punching bag for Christmas last year. We spoke to him that hitting is a defensive action, not an offensive action. And when a kid pushed him to the ground in the hallway, my nephew got up and cold cocked the kid. Yes, he got suspended, but you know what? No one has put a hand on him since.

[my_thots_exctly]

When a niece was in 4th grade, a boy picked up her her dress. She said she yelled at him and told the teacher and the teacher told **her** to either not wear a dress or wear shorts under it. The second time the boy did it, she punched him in the face and gave him a black eye. She had suspend for a week but none of us in the fam were mad.

[mangosmuggler]

Wowwwww of course, fuckin victim blaming 🙄

[brokecouture]

Yea my dance teacher watched me run out of the class crying because my friends decided to hate me over an older kid who’d harassed me all night at the roller gardens. Like wouldn’t leave me alone. Wouldn’t stop trying to skate with me and touch me inappropriately so I hid out in little spaces away from the skating the whole night (I was in middle school he was probably in high school). I felt so uncomfortable and it was so bizarre how my supposed best friend decided I was trash for it and it was something I was too scared to tell mu mom about. Anyway, I hid all dance period in the bathroom (I went to art school lol) and mu teacher came and found me after and said, don’t ever let anyone see me cry like that and um, yea that advice fucked me up even till today. That was the start of a lot of bullying I got from my peers that was geared towards my sexuality and my body. Like my whole class, I became an outcast. Now that I look back on it, it was just cause I’d gone through puberty quick and everyone decided all the inappropriate

[mangosmuggler]

Ughhhhh geez… WTF. I am so sorry, bb. 💕 and I feel you… I never wear short shorts or crop tops etc cuz people are either creepy or judgy 🤬🙄

[ext_5435762]

My son is being pushed around in kindergarten and we’ve taught him how to stand up for himself. Bullies only stop if you challenge them

[buries]

i was bullied in school, i told a teacher, and then the teacher took the bully's side and gaslit me. i tried to do the right thing and what everyone always fucking says and it ended up being so detrimental to me at school.

stand up for yourself. no one is going to cape for you harder than you because everyone else has their own self-interest to prioritise.

[mangosmuggler]

UGHHHHH I am so sorry bb and I hate that that happened to you!!!! I have finally learned as an adult in my 30s to stand up for myself cuz ironically I didn’t have issues at school… I had shitty parents who were the bullies 😩 it’s traumatizing and confusing and fucked up when it’s your FAMILY ugh

[buries]

oh man, bullying sucks all around-and it just feels doubly worse when it's your family. i'm sorry your parents were shit, but at least you don't take any shit! i feel like being bullied in some way makes you grow... even though, you know, it'd be nice to grow without being treated like garbage.

[la_geni]

I was bullied in Kindergarten and 1st grade. Kindy teacher did something about it. 1st grade teacher did jack shit. I was getting sexually harassed by another kid. Yes you read that right. I didn’t know how to react (who the fuck does at that age) when he would pinch my butt under my skirt and do things like that. So I would just paralyze and would start crying. I’m a teacher now and if my kid randomly started crying I would remove them from the situation and figure out what’s wrong.

[mangosmuggler]

OMG BB I AM SO SORRY!!!!! It was damaging for me when I experienced that in 8th grade… I can’t imagine being so much younger and smaller geez

[iamtheliquorr]

Truer words were never spoken (typed?) I was bullied in jr high and the adults did fuck all. I wish I hadn’t listened to the “ignore them and tell a teacher” advice everyone always gives and just stood up to the bullies bc that truly is the only way to make it stop. Ppl always say “just ignore them and they will get bored and move on” but that honestly just makes it worse.

[msbombtastic]

and tbh, a lot people who most passionately say "take the high road, it's NEVER okay to be mean or hit somebody back!!! Be the bigger person" are usually people who have never been on the receiving end of horrible bullying and abuse (maybe even the ones administering it...) so that's great advice when the "worst" thing you've experienced is mild name calling