Mila Kunis shares the 'parenting fail' her husband Ashton Kutcher called her out over

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The actress said that she doesn't always see eye-to-eye with her significant other when it comes to parenting. https://t.co/V80EfWQZdE
- ABC News (@ABC) October 21, 2021

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While on Ellen DeGeneres' Mom Confessions Mila talked about a situation with daughter Wyatt she and Ashton had different conflict resolution strategies for

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[deja_vu822]

i actually have no idea what the right answer is here

[queenb727]

My mom's rule was telling the teacher 3 times and then handle it yourself. Trying to get an adult to resolve it was the right thing to do, but we were allowed self defense. I feel like that's a pretty good solution. Teach kids not to just be violent, but you don't have to let someone start in on bullying you either.

[deja_vu822]

oooh i really like this, that seems fair

[nigelwitthebrie]

I like this....so in case the teacher gets mad at the victim fighting back, you or the parent can say "we reported the bullying to you 3x's and you did nothinh....so I don't see why you be mad when I stood up for myself."

[rhcp]

it's a really tricky thing to navigate because you want your kid to defend themselves but then you don't want to endorse them being physical for every conflict. preschool is often the first time kids are interacting with other kids so there's gonna be a lot of this sort of thing happening. i haven't had this exact experience yet so i don't know how i will navigate it when it does happen.

[champagnexdream]

I think I’m gonna teach my kid(s) never to throw the first strike but that they absolutely can and should hit back. I’ll prob put my daughter in self-defense classes

[xmas_n_hollis]

I tell my son to FIRST try to tell a teacher depending on the situation (like he is a lil black boy and a lil white girl kept pinching him...plz alert teacher don't retaliate) but he CAN hit BACK, not first.

[missyxxmisch]

Yes, you are trying to teach them not to escalate the violence, that often times its better to "lose" then be the winner and just be seriously injured or dead.

But I mean, I do believe there are times when you also need to have the courage to stand up for yourself. I think you just need to learn how to judge the situation. Gosh, its tricky though.

Like, I wouldn't want to encourage my child to fight back a bully, especially if they pulled out a weapon or knife, it's not worth it to me. sorry.

[fbag17]

Ashton seems like the type to criticize everyone else's ideas while having none of his own. What's his solution to his kid getting pushed around at school?

Some kids are unfortunately getting pushed around at home so they come to school and push around other kids. They always look for the passive/weak ones. In my experience, you have to establish (early) that you aren't the one to be trifled with. A bloody nose should suffice.

School is a warzone. I'm so glad I'm not a kid anymore.

[picturemegone]

I'm happy I don't have kids because honestly I don't know what to say in these situations.

[lurkurheartout]

Me too! My parents did horrible in this department when it came to raising me so I don't have a good example and even through all the therapy and deprogramming my brain of toxic things I don't know how I could be there for them.

[staygoldpnyboy]

Tell them to fucking punch the bully.

[mwffj]

Bullies, for whatever reason, only understand getting back what they dish out. Asking them to stop, ignoring them, telling a teacher, none of it ever works. I would have LOVED it if it did because that would have saved me a lot of trouble and heartache.

[slaughtermatic]

idk the bullies at my school werent people you fought with. the guy that made my life hell, i threw a paper ball back at him once and he hit me with a chair in the face. couldve fucked me up good. takes a split second with psychos so my advice to my kid would just be stay the fuck away and earn more money than the fucker later.

[mwffj]

Pretty sure an incident like that is when you get the police involved. That's not bullying, that's straight up assault.

My parents tried the "stay the fuck away and earn more money than the fucker later" approach and now I have crippling social anxiety.

[slaughtermatic]

Yeah it is, but you can get the police involved all you want after your kid has lost an eye. I'd rather have social anxiety than suffer the split second wrath of other peoples shitty parenting 🤷‍♀️