Mila Kunis shares the 'parenting fail' her husband Ashton Kutcher called her out over

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The actress said that she doesn't always see eye-to-eye with her significant other when it comes to parenting. https://t.co/V80EfWQZdE
- ABC News (@ABC) October 21, 2021

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While on Ellen DeGeneres' Mom Confessions Mila talked about a situation with daughter Wyatt she and Ashton had different conflict resolution strategies for

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[maidenhell]

Teachers did nothing about the bullies in my school too (elementary, junior and high school). I always kept quiet and tried to ignore it ... but stuff like that can stay with you for the rest of your life. Knowing I had a trusted adult who could have helped would have meant the world to me back then and given me a greater sense of belonging rather than feeling like I was thrown to the wolves.

[jjazz59]

The same thing happened to me. Teachers were no help at all.

[pseudonygma]

IA. My dad knew I was being bullied (surely, my mom *must* have told him) and said nothing, no even to console me. His cashier on the other hand, actually went on the school bus to yell at those kids (she was the one who picked me up at the bus stop). Lucky for them, they were absent that day but it's the thought that counts, tbqh.

My mom told me that she complained to my school but I don't think it made a difference until after Christmas. At the time, I was convinced that the bullying stopped because I got a haircut and so they didn't recognize me, lol.

[credits]

I had one teacher join in on the bullying when I was crying. This was in highschool, too. Fucking bullshit.

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[umilicious]

This is where I’m at on this. Teachers can and will only do so much, and if the school doesn’t involve the bullying kid’s parents/guardians, then the situation is less likely to change. And if the parents/guardians are trash then it could get worse. I’m all for peaceful resolution first, but if someone hits first, the kid shouldn’t just lie down and take it.

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[umilicious]

I guess I should have been clear that I’m referring to school-aged (7+ years) kids. Toddlers and preschoolers need firm guidance at that age and can be taught to play well with others, but I will still stand firm on the fact that in most cases, teachers can’t do a lot unless the parents or guardians back that up as well. I’ve seen many of them say defend their aggressive kids and that’s actually gotten worse as I’ve grown older and seen how Gen X and millennials have behaved as parents. But I was a young parent so maybe times have changed more in recent years.

[tlovesdolphin]

We've told our kids to always try to get away and find an adult, but if they can't, and someone hits them, they're allowed to hit back. As long as they are defending themselves or someone who can't, they're not going to get in trouble at home. I can't promise the school won't punish them, but as long as they're doing the right thing and/or protecting themselves, I'll back them.

[winter_lace]

They weren't exactly bullies but they definitely were quietly co-signing it. I still don't trust anyone in positions of "authority"

[winter_lace]

JFC. That's horrific. I'm sorry that you went through that. People are awful.

[winter_lace]

The ugly cackle I just let out. All the bad shit that happened to me was at a public school. High school (catholic) was relatively bully free for me. Still had to deal with the hour commute on the bus to and from school which was shared with the public high school and all the people who had tortured me previously. My catholic high school tried to do something about it but I think their hands were tied.

This exchange has got me thinking about it a little. I know I said that the teachers weren't bullies but they really were. They didn't pit us against each other but I was definitely mocked a few times and gaslit a lot (the most egregious being when I broke my ankle was told I was faking).