(im not angry, so try not to take it like i am)tear_ofbloodJanuary 18 2007, 01:12:48 UTC
So then I got a whole slew of people being like "You're ridiculous. You already have your septum, what difference does it make?!" and "IF YOU REALLY WANTED IT, YOU WOULDN'T WORRY!" Fuck you, you're wrong. You have to be an idiot NOT to worry about things like that when you make a big change to your appearance.
So im an idiot because i dont worry about what people think? People that have no real right to judge me since they dont know me at all? It seems idiotic to me (not saying you're an idiot) to worry about what other people think, when they have no right to think it. You know?
If you're worried about that kind of stuff, maybe you're not totally ready for it.
If they truly loved me, they'd understand that these things make me happyI have a family that loves me, i have a girlfriend that loves me, i have a job that loves to have me around. People come to me when they have problems. How you look should not have an affect on your life, other than you liking it
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Re: (im not angry, so try not to take it like i am)tear_ofbloodJanuary 18 2007, 02:43:15 UTC
I know what you mean about the job situation. I will be a server/network administrator, and the way i look will make it hard for me to establish experience. Its sad that it has to be that way, but it does. It's just something that comes with this life style.
Anyways, you're adorable. I doubt a few little scars would hinder jobs.
(This might be a little off topic [and might just my morals coming into play], but you might want to quit the pot before you get into the business world.)
And i know what you mean about hurting your family. My grandma hated what i did. But the pain is only temporary, they get used to it because they love you. Well, in my case they did.
I have over $2500 in tattoo work and I still have other modded folk treat me badly because they can't see it. I work an office job and I have a child with a freak of an ex who would love to use my appearance against me, so my work hides.
I've been talked down to, not taken seriously, and treated badly going into tattoo and/or piercing studios because of it. When I whip out my "mod credentials" by flashing a glimpse of my backpiece or mention the large-gauge hidden piercings I have, I get the fun of watching their attitude change and then letting them know that I'll go spend my cash at a studio where I'm treated more courteously.
Modded people are still people, and there isn't a group of people in the world that doesn't have at least a FEW twatwaffles in the bunch.
That said, I know it's hard to say "screw the world, I'm doing what makes me happy", but one thing I've learned with age is that trying to consider everyone else's feelings does nothing but make life unbearable.
It's like the old song says: You can't please
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Yeah. I see what you're saying. And now that you say it, it's so blatantly obvious, but wasn't so when I was bored at work (not even an hour ago) and getting pissed at the world for being douchebags. But I guess I feel like I get treated like I know nothing more than I'm respected. At least you can flash a backpiece or something and get respected, I could spout off everything I know (which might take more than 5 minutes) and still get treated like shit for not being ready to jeapordize what I want to get a little bridge piercing.
I just want and need internships (and a job when I get out of school). I don't want to be pretty much dismissed out of hand because there are 5439853475023 more students (or graduates) who want and need this as much as I do and they'll be more serious/dedicated/etc etc than I would be because I happen to chose a different aesthetic
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Okay, so I'm even less modified than you and wonder if I "qualify" to even answer, but:
That's the kind of person she is, you can't persuade her that you're not being deliberately rude and there's no way in hell you can persuade her to see things more your way-- or even just understand where you're coming from.
Yeah. I think that a lot of people just don't really realize how much this can affect people.
I want a cutting very badly, and have for a long time. But I want it in a visible place, and I know what my family's reaction would be. I don't want to never be able to see people I love and care about without serious awkwardness.
I'm sure I'll eventually do it. But I'm not ready for my presence at family gatherings to disturb everyone, and I'm not the kind of "fuck my family!" person to not care, or not go, or cut them off.
Yeah. She wouldn't stop talking to me or stop paying for school, but I feel like for a long time she'd just be uncomfortable with it. And I love my Mommy a lot, she's my favorite person on earth... I don't want her to feel any sort of ambiguous or negative feelings towards me. And she's sacrificed so much for us, she's had a lot of hardship, she's a strong, stron lady and she loves us sooo much. She just doesn't deserve to have me stress her out because I chose to do somethign with my body. Body modification and freedom of choice is really important to me, but my Mommy is moreso and probably always will be. I mean, I know I shouldn't feel guilty, but that's exactly how I'd feel, and how I feel whenever she sees a mod she didn't know about. Thank god she knows about them all at the moment.
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and because you are a fellow bostonian. i wish you had seen y bridge piercing.
for tangents sake-have you found the people at chameleon to be absolute pricks?
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Jewelry gallery people... yeah.
But the receptionists, artists and piercers have been nothing but kind to me.
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Fuck you, you're wrong.
You have to be an idiot NOT to worry about things like that when you make a big change to your appearance.
So im an idiot because i dont worry about what people think? People that have no real right to judge me since they dont know me at all? It seems idiotic to me (not saying you're an idiot) to worry about what other people think, when they have no right to think it. You know?
If you're worried about that kind of stuff, maybe you're not totally ready for it.
If they truly loved me, they'd understand that these things make me happyI have a family that loves me, i have a girlfriend that loves me, i have a job that loves to have me around. People come to me when they have problems. How you look should not have an affect on your life, other than you liking it ( ... )
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Anyways, you're adorable. I doubt a few little scars would hinder jobs.
(This might be a little off topic [and might just my morals coming into play], but you might want to quit the pot before you get into the business world.)
And i know what you mean about hurting your family. My grandma hated what i did. But the pain is only temporary, they get used to it because they love you. Well, in my case they did.
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A lot less awkward silence.
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I've been talked down to, not taken seriously, and treated badly going into tattoo and/or piercing studios because of it. When I whip out my "mod credentials" by flashing a glimpse of my backpiece or mention the large-gauge hidden piercings I have, I get the fun of watching their attitude change and then letting them know that I'll go spend my cash at a studio where I'm treated more courteously.
Modded people are still people, and there isn't a group of people in the world that doesn't have at least a FEW twatwaffles in the bunch.
That said, I know it's hard to say "screw the world, I'm doing what makes me happy", but one thing I've learned with age is that trying to consider everyone else's feelings does nothing but make life unbearable.
It's like the old song says: You can't please ( ... )
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I see what you're saying.
And now that you say it, it's so blatantly obvious, but wasn't so when I was bored at work (not even an hour ago) and getting pissed at the world for being douchebags.
But I guess I feel like I get treated like I know nothing more than I'm respected. At least you can flash a backpiece or something and get respected, I could spout off everything I know (which might take more than 5 minutes) and still get treated like shit for not being ready to jeapordize what I want to get a little bridge piercing.
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That's the kind of person she is, you can't persuade her that you're not being deliberately rude and there's no way in hell you can persuade her to see things more your way-- or even just understand where you're coming from.
Yeah. I think that a lot of people just don't really realize how much this can affect people.
I want a cutting very badly, and have for a long time. But I want it in a visible place, and I know what my family's reaction would be. I don't want to never be able to see people I love and care about without serious awkwardness.
I'm sure I'll eventually do it. But I'm not ready for my presence at family gatherings to disturb everyone, and I'm not the kind of "fuck my family!" person to not care, or not go, or cut them off.
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And I love my Mommy a lot, she's my favorite person on earth... I don't want her to feel any sort of ambiguous or negative feelings towards me.
And she's sacrificed so much for us, she's had a lot of hardship, she's a strong, stron lady and she loves us sooo much. She just doesn't deserve to have me stress her out because I chose to do somethign with my body.
Body modification and freedom of choice is really important to me, but my Mommy is moreso and probably always will be.
I mean, I know I shouldn't feel guilty, but that's exactly how I'd feel, and how I feel whenever she sees a mod she didn't know about.
Thank god she knows about them all at the moment.
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