someone once told me i couldn't be submissive sexually and still fight for women's rights. i don't remember how the topic came about, but i mentioned that i had fantasies about being tied up and controlled by a man (not a random guy, but someone i was in a committed relationship with). she told me i should be ashamed because i was just giving into ( Read more... )

a friend and i have a ritual of checking out the postsecret postcards everyweek...

hmmm...slightly disturbing.

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Has anyone here ever gotten shit from their parents because they like paying their half of the bill? I think thats the biggest problem my parents have with my love life. They are insulted by the fact that I like to pay my half of the check, like Im somehow lowering myself by not having the guy pay for me. They say "He has to earn it". What exactly ( Read more... )

My boyfriend just doesn't get why the fact that I was taken advantage of by a 30-year-old man when I was 16 is bad. He sees how much it hurts me, and how angry and frustrated I get, but he's not really sure...why. He doesn't understand that it wasn't my fault, even though I did say yes. I know the reason he doesn't understand is because he wasn't ( Read more... )

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The summer 2005 issue of Bitch Magazine has an interview with Mattilda aka Matt Bernstein Sycamore, an author and queer activist. She has an upcoming book, That's Revolting, that deals with radical queer issues and such. In the interview, a question was posed about the fight for same-sex marriage within the spectrum of feminism and queer radicalism ( Read more... )

A slew of my friends have been getting married lately. Which makes me feel weird because a) I'm not married, or engaged, b) or even in a long term relationship that could possibly turn into marriage, c) not ready for either of the two above mentioned items ( Read more... )

Thought this was interesting, particularly some of the reader's comments already posted ( Read more... )

i am not exactly sure how to formulate well what i want to say, but i can try. i have mixed feelings about women who stick to their husbands, just because they will do everything it takes for them to stay. i don't know what to think... like, i am against it, i don't think it's okay to spend your whole life worrying if your husband will approve of ( Read more... )

Those eccentric, insecure, arrogant, unusually wealthy, old, white men, you know the type? They want to be surrounded by beautiful women, fawning beautiful women, ornaments, really ( Read more... )