So one of my friends called me and recommended that I just turn my back on everyone and everything that is a negative and focus all of my energy on the positives - something I've been working toward pretty hard for the last several months. Very specifically, my friend said that I needed to stay away from l.j. She said that most people just use l.j ( Read more... )

While I am disappointed that people would call themselves my friends, tell me literally to my face that they love me, that all is well - even go so far as to send me a thoughtful and lovely wedding card and gift - but then turn around and spew out hate, lies, and attacks, I can’t say that I’m surprised. A lot of people claim to hate drama while ( Read more... )

Part of the reason I am being accused of being a Horrible Terrible Person and The Worst Friend Ever is that I supposedly caused stress and damaged a wedding by cruelly choosing a moment immediately before this wedding to tell the bride and groom that I did not want them involved in my own wedding. Worse, I supposedly did this because I was throwing ( Read more... )

Forcing "help" on someone by saying, "if you don't take this, I'm going to hurt," and refusing to listen when they say "this isn't the kind of help I need anyway," is not beneficial to a situation. Getting angry with them when they become frustrated because your "help" is actually getting in the way is also not beneficial - neither is the ( Read more... )

I just said this to someone in an email and it's really sinking in how very, very important these words are. I need to pound them into my head and make sure they stay there. One-of-tha-few, one of your tasks as my most pragmatic friend is to remind me of these words whenever you think they're needed ( Read more... )

Four times in the last 24 hours someone has said something directly or indirectly with the intention of directly or indirectly taking a swipe at me. Rather than losing my temper or uselessly arguing or any other just as useless emotion, I've been able to step back and say either, "Okay, this person is just pissy and needs someone to yell at," or " ( Read more... )

So I actually got emails yesterday after my vent telling me that I was wrong, and that it is standard etiquette to be able to bring an uninvited guest. And I was feeling all better after I vented, thinking that I wouldn't have to deal with it again.

Well, for anyone who doubted, here's what the experts say:
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And by the way, the next person who calls me rude or bitchy for saying, "I'm sorry, you can't bring X" is just plain getting asked to not come. Do you really not understand that this is OUR wedding and you are a GUEST??? We don't owe you anything!!!

I'm a sucker for old-fashioned manners. I like a man who will open a car door for me or wait for me to be seated first, and I like a woman who will serve tea in cups with saucers or send cards "just because." And while I often disagree with the respected Ms. Emily Post, I believe that one of the few things that keeps our society from falling apart ( Read more... )

Astonished and honored ( Read more... )