Goodbye
So one of my friends called me and recommended that I just turn my back on everyone and everything that is a negative and focus all of my energy on the positives - something I've been working toward pretty hard for the last several months. Very specifically, my friend said that I needed to stay away from l.j. She said that most people just use l.j. to vent and spill crap and of course I do, too, but she made the valid point that unless that person is someone who I actually want venting to me, I shouldn't expose myself to it. She said that the best way to make sure I can't be involved in stupid wars that other people want to start is to just remove myself from the battlefield. So, to that effect, I'm going to be revamping my friends lists, locking all of my posts to just them, and reading only their posts. As it is, I've been ignoring everyone's posts since I made my stance and this will just make it easier. Most of my time over the last few months has been spent with mostly just real friends and I've discovered an amazing sense of peace and happiness. Even through all of the stress, I've been really happy. So obviously that works for me and I should stick with it. It's also interesting to note that being happier has made it easier for me to deal with real problems and has also taken away the power of stupid problems and melodrama. A year ago I would have been very upset, but now I can say, "hmm, is this really important?" or "is this person even important?" and the answer is generally no, so I can nod and turn away. A thing only has power over you, after all, if you give it that power. A person can only insult you if you stand there and listen to them and then allow yourself to be insulted. We all let our own demons in. We all choose or destroy our own peace. I am surrounded by dozens of wonderful people. I am surrounded by light and love. Why on earth should I let anything - or anyone - try to interfere with that?
If you would like to be included in my l.j. list, please let me know right away. Oh, and by the way our phone number and email addresses will also be changing soon, so if you want to be notified, also let me know. It doesn't, by the way, have anything to do with the current situation - we'd actually decided to do it months ago as part of our "sweeping out the negative past." We were just going to wait until after the wedding - but now we're not. Love to my friends, and to everyone else - find peace.
If you would like to be included in my l.j. list, please let me know right away. Oh, and by the way our phone number and email addresses will also be changing soon, so if you want to be notified, also let me know. It doesn't, by the way, have anything to do with the current situation - we'd actually decided to do it months ago as part of our "sweeping out the negative past." We were just going to wait until after the wedding - but now we're not. Love to my friends, and to everyone else - find peace.