relationships: Kylei / Abby / Anika / Heather / KWT / Lilywolf / Topaz / Allison / Jaime / Don / Kat

[belenen]

icon: "overwhelmed (the character Keenan from "Playing By Heart," with hands over their face covering their eyes and head tilted back)"Reflecting on my relationships this past week, I realized that I have been pouring a lot of energy out and not getting much back. This isn't a problem when I'm in a period of abundance, because I don't mind it in

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[belenen]

ohhh yay! I meditate at 5:30pm EST on Wednesdays. can I have your email address? http://www.livejournal.com/poll/?id=1848995&mode=enter

*nods lots* I am sorry that you have also had this experience, but thank you for the understanding. I think I caught it this time before it started causing damage <3 at least I have learned to note the signs, though I probably wouldn't have taken the signs seriously yet if Topaz hadn't been like "I can see that you are being drained, you need to make some changes." So I feel grateful for that!

[belenen]

no worries, it is not your fault! it's not anyone's fault really, just a situational problem.

ME TOOOOO!!!

[webgirluk]

You sound really similar to me when it comes to friendships.

[belenen]

in what way(s)? *curious*

[webgirluk]

1. We both are very invested in our frendships and enjoy analysing them.
2. We both can have depressive moods where we feel like cutting everyone off due to perhaps feeling not cared for at that moment.
3. We both experience friendships where we feel we're putting too much in and the other person isn't really, for whatever the reason.
4. We both dislike seeing others enjoy aspects of someone that we miss out on but seem to be able to give to others and try and rationalise it, knowing there are logical reasons for it sometimes.

[call_me_katya]

I'm never sure whether to write stuff like this as I'm not sure if it will have the desired effect [a positive one] or make the person sad, or feel pressured, which isn't my intent.

What I want to say is even though I live far away I do consider you a friend. I know we can't make plans and it's not really achieving anything for me to say this, but understand that people do want to connect with you. Hope this statement isn't draining as it's not an expectation of you, just a... thing!

I completely understand how draining it can be when plans change around though, and are rescheduled. People don't realise how much someone can focus on a time and place and if it changes, the whole energy shifts.

[belenen]

I feel you are a friend too! I am quite glad to have 'met' you -- it has been a long time since I found someone through LJ that I clicked with on this level. I appreciate this comment a lot <3

If you were interested and able, on Wednesdays at 10:30pm your time I'm going to be meditating and if you were interested you could join? This week it's just going to be at the same time, but some weeks it will be via google hangout (all you need is a gmail address).

[call_me_katya]

I had actually been considering replying to your meditation call [I had already worked out the times, etc!] but was holding back from replying for a few reasons.

1. That I can't guarantee to be free at that time every Wednesday. Some weeks I'm still in work, although tomorrow I'll be free.

2. I've never really meditated before. When you say "I text to ask how theirs went and describe mine" I wonder to myself What if nothing happens? Is something supposed to happen? How will I describe nothingness?

If you're okay with that though, I'm free tomorrow and happy to give you a number or gmail address if you need [the email I gave you before was hotmail].

And thank you <3

[belenen]

there are no worries about 1 or 2 -- sometimes I don't have much to say either! and I won't mind if you only come occasionally. Sorry I didn't get back to you before wednesday! please do give me your gmail address ;-)

[kmiotutsie]

I would so LOVE a visit with you, and am super looking forward to planning that!! :)

Also, I wish our phones were more compatible :/ would love to be seeing your photos and having that interaction. Have you thought about instagram?

[belenen]

me toooooo!!! :D

instagram, I have considered it. Are there any benefits that email doesn't offer? I like the intimate feel of email.

[kmiotutsie]

Benefits? Nah; it might be a hair quicker, and you'd be sharing with everyone who's on your follow list at once-- probably would eliminate like ONE step. All the filters are kind of fun though-- I've been addicted to instagram lately :) My feed is public; if you want to cruise it I'm @kmiokat :)