My fears

[uohana]

I had a conversation with my father a few weeks ago and he told me that I had alot of fears and that I was letting them control how I did things. I agreed that this is what I was, and am doing. He told me that you can't conquer your fears if you don't know what they are. So he suggested that I write them down and then write what the solution to

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[brittknee]

Me about a year ago, she'd have the exact same fears. I think this list would've been identical. It takes a lot of self discovery to get over these things and its awesome you're taking steps forward to conquer them! I'd say a big thing is self esteem. I had to learn to please myself before pleasing others

[uohana]

I understand what you are saying and I guess I didnt say it right. I don't care much anymore what people think about what I do or say. But to stop from having a fight with someone I will be careful about what I say to them

[brittknee]

"But to stop from having a fight with someone I will be careful about what I say to them."

Makes sense. Having the ability to read a persons personality is a good trait. Lots of people respond negatively to certain things.

"I will say that I do get annoyed when someone comes to me for advice doesn't follow it, shit goes array and then comes back to me asking what they should do and then when I tell them they don't do it and then come back to me telling me about how it went wrong so on and so on. And I have stopped that trend I no longer allow that to happen."

If that's something that bothers you enough, then I applaud you for stopping. I see how that can get tiring.

"I dunno if I agree with the real friends will always come back shouldn't they have been there all along?"I guess I also worded that wrong. I guess I'm a believer that a real "friend" is someone who will always be there for you even if you don't hang out with them on a daily basis, talk to them everyday etc. That doesn't necessarily mean they've "left" anywhere, persay

[uohana]

I agree with you there on the friend thing. I don't think that friends need to talk everyday or anything like that. I think that real friends will drop things if their friend is in need. And I do believe that you are a real friend to me :D Sometimes I get sad because we don't talk for long periods of time (3-4 months) and its different from what it used to be lol. But I do consider you still as one of my true friends. Thanks for the insight into a few of my fears