Hey everyone. I hope I'm posting this in the right area. I'm 20 years old. I'm still semi-in the closet about my gender identity. The world sees me as a woman. But that's not what I'm supposed to be. When I was 8 years old, I told some kids in my class that I was supposed to be a boy. Somehow it managed to work it's way to the principle and then
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As far as 'living like a guy,' well, every guy is different, but are there any activities that you really wanted to participate in that you felt were closed to you because of your feminine gender presentation? Sports, for example that you've always wanted to try? I found that joining a co-ed fencing team really helped me channel my own masculinity and interact in a friendly setting with other guys, which really helped me along my own journey as a genderqueer boi. maybe something like that could help you ease into masculine space without putting you in a position where you feel completely uncomfortable and unsafe.
Good luck. Trying to be true to yourself in an unsupportive environment is one of the hardest things that you'll ever have to face.
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You say binding doesn't work well for you, what have you tried? I had a very large chest when I began my transition, I might be able to offer you some pointers. I was very, very high femme before I came out, so I understand forcing yourself to be femme, and how that can cause some lasting damage.
As for living as a guy, there is really no right way to do that - whatever feels comfortable for you, and authentic, that's the right way for you. There won't be a test to see if you're "doing it right" :)
I definitely advise reading through posts here on transgender and also joining ftm (lots of good stuff in the tags there that may help you).
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My mother is similar (my mother is desperate to get me into a skirt - I feel like I'm cross dressing when I do, sort of fun and naughty but not exactly how I want to feel at a family dinner, you know?). I don't correct my gender with her because I know it would be a fight every conversation, every day. Instead, I made a fight over my name. And I talk to my father, who's more open about it. He's taken to calling me his "cowboy" instead of his girl, which I was up until recently. He has some strange ideas about why I'm not a girl (currently, it's because I never had a sister, but I have a twin brother, so obviously that's why I grew up thinking/acting as a guy).
As for being a guy, do what feels natural for you. Guys are such a broad and varied category. I run around in cowboy boots and graphic tees and spiking my hair (and passing as a guy as such) but that's not going to do it for everyone (or even anyone who isn't me).
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Maybe you can find places to be the man you know you are? I have places and people who I know accept me for who I am and that makes all the difference in life to me.
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One of the perks of getting older. :)
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