Hey everyone. I hope I'm posting this in the right area. I'm 20 years old. I'm still semi-in the closet about my gender identity. The world sees me as a woman. But that's not what I'm supposed to be. When I was 8 years old, I told some kids in my class that I was supposed to be a boy. Somehow it managed to work it's way to the principle and then
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As for how to be a guy, just do whatever feels right to you. There is no single mold for "Man"; I know cisgendered men who sew and knit and I know cisgendered women who repair cars and weld metal, so, really, it takes all kinds. I would just start with whatever your fondest wish might be that could be easily accomplished--whether that is trying on men's clothing at the store or joining a sports league of some kind or reading up on some subject that you thought was not feminine enough to indulge in before.
There are some relatively simple things you could do to alter your physical appearance: get your hair cut in a more male style (going to a barbershop is the best way and will usually get you a more masculine-looking haircut than going to a styling salon); learn some binding techniques from guys who have or have had large chests; you can even make a packer from condoms and hair gel if you don't have $50 or more to spend on a silicon model right now.
Basically, your mom is wrong. She will have to come to accept who you are if she wants to continue to have a relationship with you. It is entirely her responsibility to decide whether she's going to or not.
Your job is to be yourself. I hope you can find space to have some fun with that part.
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One of the perks of getting older. :)
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