Comments | thageneral: So did I cross the line?

thageneral

So did I cross the line?

Jan 11, 2006 14:55

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You did cross the line Andrew! anonymous January 11 2006, 18:59:14 UTC

Andrew, this is Xiomara's mom....remember me? You are right in your opening comments when you say and I quote "I didn’t have to go into her email, get her contacts and send an e-mail out to her family, friends, school and business contacts". In fact I have a feeling that what you did was illegal but I'm doing some more research on that. You are right to share your deep feelings with your friends and those close to you who will give you support in your time of need but you definitely crossed the line to send such an email to Xiomara's business contacts including her boss. You demontrated how easily this powerful tool called email could be misused with a key stroke.
Nineeta

Re: You did cross the line Andrew! thageneral January 12 2006, 08:19:40 UTC

Sorry I missed your calls yesterday Nineeta, I was at work for the majority of day. I was going to call you back after my shift but I decided not to after my mother told me about a conversation she had with you. Did you forget to tell my mother that your daughter was drunk? When I retold the story to my parents they were a bit surprised at that tidbit of information ( ... )

OK Andrew! anonymous January 12 2006, 09:23:08 UTC

Hi Andrew,
I hope you are doing better. Just to clarify, I do have an opinion on this matter. However, I also believe in personal privacy. There is a time and place for everything Andrew. I spoke to your mother and simple read her parts of the email you sent me and asked her to #1 make sure you were OK and #2 perhaps speak to you about the matter. I believe I did the right thing to call her and I shared with her the situation as I knew it - mostly from your perspective, derived from your email.

If your actions eased your pain, then I am happy for you. If you intended to hurt Xiomara and her family, then you succeeded. If as you feel that she violated your trust and you had to do the same back to her, then you have achieved that too.

You are right about having no idea about who the people in her address book were. I hope you have not set the wrong train in motion as a result. Maybe the score is even now and you can see it fit to remove the pictures of my daughter from the internet.

Take care Andrew.
Nineeta

thank goodness for powerful tools storytellah January 11 2006, 23:59:34 UTC

let's look at the options ( ... )

Some more facts Storytellah storytellah January 12 2006, 05:54:25 UTC

1. Nobody CHOSE to send the email to X's parents. Andrew did that directly himself....he sent it to her parent, boss, professor etc. None of these are inconsequential people in my mind ( ... )

Re: Some more facts Storytellah storytellah January 12 2006, 10:16:06 UTC

1. i think andrew addressed this one himself above ( ... )

anonymous January 12 2006, 18:17:51 UTC

Thus far, we have barely spoken because I'm not quite sure what to say to you. You said your reasons for sending the mass e-mail were to hurt Xiomara, so she would feel the pain that you did. Yet now after reading the previous comments, speaking with various recipients of the e-mail and after speaking wtih Xiomara, it seems to me that your plan has slightly backfired. You have affected the people around Xiomara with your actions, more than her. An e-mail that was an attack on her character, has resulted in an attack on your character. And now more people are concerned with whether or not what you did was just/moral/malicious/etc., rather than the actual content ( ... )

anonymous January 12 2006, 18:18:58 UTC

Oh sorry ...that was from me, Cynthia.