Re: You did cross the line Andrew!thageneralJanuary 12 2006, 08:19:40 UTC
Sorry I missed your calls yesterday Nineeta, I was at work for the majority of day. I was going to call you back after my shift but I decided not to after my mother told me about a conversation she had with you. Did you forget to tell my mother that your daughter was drunk? When I retold the story to my parents they were a bit surprised at that tidbit of information.
Maybe that’s why you might be missing the reasoning behind my actions. You’re avoiding having opinion on the situation because your daughter was the one at fault. Yes, I’ve admitted to wrong doing, Xiomara has too, but who threw the first stone? The debate is who threw the bigger stone. Emotional scaring or public embarrassment?
I was hurting when I did what I did, but even through my hurt I didn’t directly send the e-mail to you, Xandra or Dave. I saw your names and didn’t feel right about doing it. To be honest, I had no idea who most of the people in her contact list were.
Yes, I didn’t send the e-mail to the people on my contact list but I did have my journal address connected to my MSN name with “CHEATED” in capitals. I told most of my friends over the phone or via text message, I’ll see more people this weekend. My peers at work asked me why I didn’t go to work on Monday, told them and then showed them my Livejournal.
I’ve have no problem with you Nineeta, you were extremely nice to me and treated me with the utmost respect throughout my relationship with your daughter. We shared many interesting topics of discussion over wonderful meals and who can forget the day I introduced you to Dave Chappelle. I loved your daughter very much and it’s a shame that things had to go down the way they have.
Your family was very gracious to me to and if I knew who’s e-mail was who maybe I would have skipped over them. But my relationship with your daughter deserved to be more than just “Oh, we broke up.” I invested a lot of time, effort and emotion into it and I felt that people really needed to know what she did to me and that she was the reason for our breakup. She violated my trust, so I did the same to her.
Your daughter demonstrated how easily trust can be violated resulting in consequences beyond belief.
Last night I shook my head and said to myself “I’m a foul dude, I’ve got her Mom posting on my Livejournal now.” This morning I woke up thought to myself, “If she wants to know the truth, then I’m going to share it with her.”
Hi Andrew, I hope you are doing better. Just to clarify, I do have an opinion on this matter. However, I also believe in personal privacy. There is a time and place for everything Andrew. I spoke to your mother and simple read her parts of the email you sent me and asked her to #1 make sure you were OK and #2 perhaps speak to you about the matter. I believe I did the right thing to call her and I shared with her the situation as I knew it - mostly from your perspective, derived from your email.
If your actions eased your pain, then I am happy for you. If you intended to hurt Xiomara and her family, then you succeeded. If as you feel that she violated your trust and you had to do the same back to her, then you have achieved that too.
You are right about having no idea about who the people in her address book were. I hope you have not set the wrong train in motion as a result. Maybe the score is even now and you can see it fit to remove the pictures of my daughter from the internet.
Maybe that’s why you might be missing the reasoning behind my actions. You’re avoiding having opinion on the situation because your daughter was the one at fault. Yes, I’ve admitted to wrong doing, Xiomara has too, but who threw the first stone? The debate is who threw the bigger stone. Emotional scaring or public embarrassment?
I was hurting when I did what I did, but even through my hurt I didn’t directly send the e-mail to you, Xandra or Dave. I saw your names and didn’t feel right about doing it. To be honest, I had no idea who most of the people in her contact list were.
Yes, I didn’t send the e-mail to the people on my contact list but I did have my journal address connected to my MSN name with “CHEATED” in capitals. I told most of my friends over the phone or via text message, I’ll see more people this weekend. My peers at work asked me why I didn’t go to work on Monday, told them and then showed them my Livejournal.
I’ve have no problem with you Nineeta, you were extremely nice to me and treated me with the utmost respect throughout my relationship with your daughter. We shared many interesting topics of discussion over wonderful meals and who can forget the day I introduced you to Dave Chappelle. I loved your daughter very much and it’s a shame that things had to go down the way they have.
Your family was very gracious to me to and if I knew who’s e-mail was who maybe I would have skipped over them. But my relationship with your daughter deserved to be more than just “Oh, we broke up.” I invested a lot of time, effort and emotion into it and I felt that people really needed to know what she did to me and that she was the reason for our breakup. She violated my trust, so I did the same to her.
Your daughter demonstrated how easily trust can be violated resulting in consequences beyond belief.
Last night I shook my head and said to myself “I’m a foul dude, I’ve got her Mom posting on my Livejournal now.” This morning I woke up thought to myself, “If she wants to know the truth, then I’m going to share it with her.”
That is what I've done.
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I hope you are doing better. Just to clarify, I do have an opinion on this matter. However, I also believe in personal privacy. There is a time and place for everything Andrew. I spoke to your mother and simple read her parts of the email you sent me and asked her to #1 make sure you were OK and #2 perhaps speak to you about the matter. I believe I did the right thing to call her and I shared with her the situation as I knew it - mostly from your perspective, derived from your email.
If your actions eased your pain, then I am happy for you. If you intended to hurt Xiomara and her family, then you succeeded. If as you feel that she violated your trust and you had to do the same back to her, then you have achieved that too.
You are right about having no idea about who the people in her address book were. I hope you have not set the wrong train in motion as a result. Maybe the score is even now and you can see it fit to remove the pictures of my daughter from the internet.
Take care Andrew.
Nineeta
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