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tendrils

The Situation.

Oct 29, 2006 14:50

The Beginning
It would be almost impossible to be unaware of the drama that's been going on lately.
To this point, I've tried to stay out of it, but am now finding it impossible to do so.
Unlike other posts, this won't be a brief 'please stop the fighting', but rather the most complete dissection of the situation that I can muster.
In fact, this will ( Read more... )

drama

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jebila October 29 2006, 04:30:50 UTC

Just for clarification, the first time I remember seeing Em and Nay that night was as I passed them in the hallway (I think you guys had just come back from getting speakers??) and I looked at Nay, she gave me a filthy look and walked straight past me. I didn't see Em's face directly but since she waked straight past me too, I would assume hers would have been the same. Silly assumption I know. Besides, I had no glasses on that night so there's every possibility that I walked past lots of people that night and didn't say anything ( ... )

nayby October 29 2006, 04:41:10 UTC

I did actually smile at you and say hi when I walked passed. If it looked any different it was because I was fucked, and the only thing on my mind was getting gum and a cigarette, which happens when we are all that way.

I also don't remember giggling like school girls, and if we were, rest assured it wasn't about you. Believe it or not, I don't have a problem with you, only your actions towards me, which I am not discussing, especially not here. I don't see the point because I think you've made your mind up about me, and it's a lost cause.

Sez wasn't mentioned in this whole post...I am confused?

nayby October 29 2006, 04:46:56 UTC

Ok Nay, it helps if you read things properly and a few times before you go replying, you didn't say we were giggling like school girls, it was in reference to something else.

But I'm sure that we where at one stage, I'm sure everyone was because, well, it's a party, and I was a giggling, fucked, messy drunk that night

:P

jebila October 29 2006, 04:47:42 UTC

Well I certainly didn't interpret it as a smile, so I apologise if you did, for thats how I saw it.

The giggling like schoolgirls thing was directed at Loz and I, not you. I personally think you do have a problem with me. For I don't think I've done anything in this whole thing that was against you, that warranted being ignored (if that in fact happened) apart from have opinions differing from Em's. I know you're close friends with Em, so I can understand you choosing sides. However your actions of bitching about me to everyone else (the walls have ears) show that you surely don't respect me. So I think its best to leave it for now. If you wish to clear things up feel free to give me a call.

A conversation between Sez and I was behind the one of the links.

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caseypuffy October 29 2006, 06:19:38 UTC

I have spoken to a couple of people who have stayed pretty neutral, as well as Em and you seem to have gotten it right from what anyone can piece together from the whole shenanigans.

You're also in saying kiss and make up comments will not help however well meaning. Dramallama behavior will only stop once people stop getting whatever benefit (whether it's a 'benefit' that can be identified as such is a different matter) it is they are getting from continuing the whole debacle.

From a group dynamic perspective you already know what I think. Real people being involved aside it's quite curious thing to have happened, an particularly the way it did.

I also know that this particular comment will get flames a go-go. Meh. Just wanted to let you know what I thought while the thoughts are still in my head.

sn00k October 29 2006, 09:00:50 UTC

God, I seriously hoped that this shit had ended, but yep, dragged in again, I think its fucking unbelievable that I have to defend myself against this shit, I'm not 9 ( ... )

nayby October 29 2006, 09:21:32 UTC

As I said to Jen earlier, I was pissed as fuck....if I didn't engage enough it was probably due to this.

Fuck, why does my name keep coming up when I think I am one of the only people not to write about this in their journal?

sn00k October 29 2006, 10:30:50 UTC

Nay, I dont have a problem with you at all!
All I was doing was giving my side of events and how certain things seemed to me. Everyone else has made assumptions, all I was doing was showing how I reached mine.I've stayed away from this shit, but I have to defend myself against some of these accusations.. You'll note that Maz told me you were just drunk, so I left it, thats it!

I wasnt even involved in this thing until I a misunderstanding between paul and myself became public knowledge and blown out of proportion.

nayby October 29 2006, 13:33:01 UTC

I'm glad you don't....I'm sorry if I came across as bitchy, I'm just sick of being mentioned all the time.

sn00k October 29 2006, 09:12:54 UTC

Just one more thing seeing as though all involved parties can read this:

This crap, and I mean all of it, results from people either mis-interpreting or assuming things based on written word, either journal or sms messages, and it all going out of control.

Talk to people, for fucks sakes. Your emotion, meaning, intent is not always displayed with plain text, if your friends, TALK ABOUT IT.

I'm guilty of it as well, but seriously people, talk to each other please. Dont use livejournal as a weapon to hurt other people.

(I mean livejournal as whole, not this particular journal either)

drgroove October 30 2006, 07:23:55 UTC

I just read this after writing basically the exact same thing below. Couldn't agree more. Text does not convey emotion or feeling.

If i were to rip on someone online, its almost certain to be taken to heart because you can't see the shit stirring grin on my face if I'm typing it......

bumbklaatt October 29 2006, 09:26:39 UTC

I must say I was disappointed to read this Ten. I'd hoped you'd at least try to stay on a more objective level ( ... )

magenta_babylon October 29 2006, 10:36:01 UTC

So that you have the full context, the sms convo between Loz and I ( ... )

sn00k October 29 2006, 10:58:24 UTC

This is further to my point though, had the situation been explained to both you AND me, this never would have happened ( ... )

magenta_babylon October 29 2006, 11:32:17 UTC

Would you have believed me if I had told you that I knew nothing of you guys turning up? I wasn't upset, per se, rather insulted that you would think me so scared of you that I would relay messages through him. I understand as much as I can how his apparent lack of care would upset you. My attitude towards you, since that first misunderstanding has always been to leave you and Ten to sort out the dramas between you. I crossed that line when I messaged you and I'm sorry ( ... )

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