I have a hard time feeling sorry for someone like Kris. He's clearly been given many breaks and he doesn't use them to better himself. He takes what he can get as if it's owed to him and then leaves the crumbs. I've known many people like that in my life and they never grow up or learn how to be respectful adults. That was completely uncalled for, the way he treated you. Did you take pictures? I think I'd consider small claims court to be reimbursed for damages. He probably wouldn't have any money to pay the judgment but it would be on his record and maybe, just maybe, someone would find out about it and save themselves the same stress later.
I do agree that he takes things like they're owed to him. He really had the opportunity to demonstrate his remorse after Em and I found the house in shambles. He could have worked on the stains or ran the dishwasher, something. Instead, he left his dishes in the sink and the trash piled up in the garage. The last time he stayed with us, I showed him where the dumpster was because he said had he known, he would have taken the trash out. Obviously not
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Hindsight is 20/20, but at least now you know that the first time around wasn't just a fluke and he really is trashy. It's always hard to learn the truth about someone like that, though.
Wow, that's awful. And I don't think him watching the dog for you was anywhere near big of a favor as you giving him a place to stay. I agree, leaving the house in that state of disarray is giving your friends a huge middle finger for their good deeds.
I tend to agree with you. To be fair, he was watching three dogs--but my dogs, Savannah and Little Bit, are adults. They're on the free feed schedule (since we're fairly new LJ friends I'm not sure if you know anything about dogs, so forgive me if this is what you already know) but free feeding just means that we have their food and water bowls down and available whenever they want to eat
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I think I'm mostly disappointed. I do think Kris is a good kid who has his heart in the right place. He just has no freaking common sense, and a real disconnect if he describes what happened as "a misunderstanding."
As far as anger, I'm more angry at myself because the more I think of the situation, the more I realize that there were signs when we let him stay here a few months ago. Finding cigarette butts in the pack and play (which could have killed Sephie if she had gotten hold of them) should have been all the indication I needed that he would not be respectful. I remember showing them to B and B saying, "Oh, he must have accidentally dropped an ashtray in there." Which is possible, since it was next to a bar where that could easily have been the case, but I was still bothered by the fact that he would have had to lean in to pick up the ashtray. Why wouldn't he get the butts up, too?
Wow. Just...wow. I would be totally livid in your shoes, and I don't blame you one bit for coming unglued and cutting this jerk from your lives. Did he skip school the day they taught common courtesy and respect? Because apparently, he didn't get any lessons on that at home.
Honestly, had he demonstrated some iota of actual remorse beyond just running his mouth to say, "I'm sorry," I might have let it go. He would have had to earn my trust back, but it probably would have happened with time. As it is, he said he was sorry but his actions communicated exactly the opposite. If everything he did to the house was flipping us the bird, him leaving all those dishes in the sink and not bothering to take the trash out was him kissing it in our faces.
I know. His total lack of understanding as to the gravity of the situation is appalling. I mean, he obviously knows he messed up but to call it a misunderstanding? Really? I just spent over a hundred bucks getting the carpet cleaned and the door frame sanded and the back yard de-mulched for a "misunderstanding"?
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As far as anger, I'm more angry at myself because the more I think of the situation, the more I realize that there were signs when we let him stay here a few months ago. Finding cigarette butts in the pack and play (which could have killed Sephie if she had gotten hold of them) should have been all the indication I needed that he would not be respectful. I remember showing them to B and B saying, "Oh, he must have accidentally dropped an ashtray in there." Which is possible, since it was next to a bar where that could easily have been the case, but I was still bothered by the fact that he would have had to lean in to pick up the ashtray. Why wouldn't he get the butts up, too?
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He has no clue. Just no freaking clue.
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