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[macabre]

I'm on a roll tonight.

But apparently alimony is bad for all women and makes them seem lesser. Yay for judging every situation!

http://community.livejournal.com/bad_service/1263192.html?thread=29061720#t29061720

Comments

[angriest_girl]

I come from a country that doesn't have alimony, and though she is being a cunt about it, I tend to agree with the general sentiment. I find it a little ridiculous that one adult has to continue supporting another adult when they are no longer in a relationship. And given the argument for it seems to always be, "Well the mother stayed home with the kids and the house for 18 years", that just strengthens my belief that stay-at-home mothers and housewives need to get the hell out of the house for a while once those kids are in school.

I don't care enough to be an advocate for it, but I'm not seeing the stupid here.

[kibbles]

It's a partnership. It's not like I sit on my ass all day doing nothing for nothing. The household bills are paid and I work my ass off doing what needs to be done when he is working (usually about 1000 miles away). He works his ass off too. It's all for the good of the family, we contribute equally effort wise, but not necessarily financially.

It's about trust, it's about self esteem, it's about common sense, in our situation. I don't need someone to hand me money directly to feel good about myself, I feel good about a job well done, with or without the paycheck.

[ramblingmuses]

Because only women receive alimony. Men, never, ever, receive alimony.

[mogwar]

Yeah, that was my first thought. Would such information make the person in the OP's head explode?

[sober_panda]

But no self-respecting man would take it. Duh!

[madra_liath]

Oh how I love self-hating women.

[lnlmandrake]

The alimony fairy doesn't wave a magical money wand and heap tons of cash on divorced women. It's awarded on a case-by-case basis and the claimant has to prove his/her need. Besides, there are these fabulous things called pre-nups and post-nups; if somebody wants to avoid paying alimony, it's really easy to do so. When I read comments, I wonder what reality some people live in.

[kibbles]

I never got from my first husband, I asked my lawyer and he said it was hard to get and under our circumstances, it wasn't applicable. This was in NY State.

[lnlmandrake]

Depending on the circumstances, it can be hard to get from FL, too. It varies a lot by state, but generally if both spouses work outside of the home, and have a similar earning potential, neither will get alimony. I didn't ask for alimony from my first husband, either. He's always behind in child support; I didn't want to even bother with alimony. If my husband and I divorce, which I don't imagine will happen, I'll pay him alimony. We've discussed it, and fair is fair - he stays at home and takes care of the kid.

[confusiontempst]

I call troll, that journal only has communities as friends.

[noodledays]

thank you.

[confusiontempst]

Err ok?

I'm just distrustful of anyone who is basically only a member of rant communities. At the very least you'd expect their rant journal to pick up friends from the rant communities.

Why were you thanking me exactly?

[noodledays]

Simply for calling troll, which I think is highly likely here.

As I read through the comments, I was like, is anyone gonna notice this looks very much like a troll journal??

Re: Why don't people understand how alimony works?

[petitfour]

Thank you. You win one free internet for knowing what the hell you're talking about.

Re: Why don't people understand how alimony works?

[kibbles]

I have little debbies, if that helps.