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[macabre]

I'm on a roll tonight.

But apparently alimony is bad for all women and makes them seem lesser. Yay for judging every situation!

http://community.livejournal.com/bad_service/1263192.html?thread=29061720#t29061720

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[kibbles]

I think what a lot of people don't udnderstand is some people consider marriage a partnership and decisions made in it are for the good of the relationship and family, if there is one

[mogwar]

I think it is just hard for people to wrap their heads around concepts like compromise, partnership, good of the family, commnication and the like.

And some people do take the whole til death thing seriously.

It'd be nice if it didn't seem like you were insulting people who made a different choice than you did in your attempts to validate your own choices.

[kibbles]

Why the hell are you taking this so personally? I'm saying people aren't seeing the big picture.

There is no attempt to validate my choices -- they ARE valid. For us. If somehow looking at my life makes you feel invalidated, I'm sorry. You have to figure out why I make you feel that way.

[mogwar]

You don't make me feel anything. Sorry. I just thought I'd point out how your tone could be taken as insulting, in case you cared. Obviously, you don't. Fine. If it makes you feel better to feel like your choices are the best choices for everyone, and anyone who makes different choices is doing a lesser job, fine. No skin off my nose.

[ems]

The combination of these comments, both by cbpiz, made me headdesk:

Get a fucking job and if you have one, learn to live within your means. Enough of this, people like you are a waste of air and ink. Go find a 'I'm a selfish bitch' board to frequent.

(Then, when someone calls her a "fucking cunt"...)

Lovely language. You may want to work on your communication skills if you have a point to make.

DOH.

[kibbles]

I just looked at her user info page. Based on community choices, a very angry person, indeed.

[kats_meow_mix]

That was in respose to my comment! LOL

I loved how after that, she pulled the "but I'm in so much pain right now" shit. Whatev.

Alimony is a sensitive subject for me. it has helped someone I love in a substancial way...for the 5 years she was authorized it.

[mogwar]

Wasn't cbpiz featured here before with her crazy beliefs that all stay-at-home moms were leeches on society, or some such? Her tirades sound awfully familiar.

[kibbles]

So then I guess other districts we can say the parents who send kids to public school are leeches?

The ideal would be private school families then.

Also stay at home doesn't mean homeschooling. I stay at home with my public school kids, and yes it costs to educate them.

But we pay taxes in two states so maybe we should get cookies@!

[kibbles]

Oh plus I would imagine materials are not the highest cost of educating a child -- those costs would be property of the school and maintenance, salaries for teachers, nurses, administrators, secretaries, janitors, groundskeepers and so on. Books are just a small part of it.

So if they still pay taxes (usually property taxes pay for schools right, so working isn't really a part of it) then they should be less of a drain than a public school child.

Although out of sheer curiosity I would love to see the numbers of a district that spends more on materials than on personnel, transportation, and the physical plant.

[chocolate_chip]

Because a woman never ever supports her husband so he can get all kinds of degrees that will get him a high-paying job so she can stay home with the kids later on, and then when she's 40 and out of the workplace for 10 years, he leaves her and their 3 kids for some skanky piece of ass. Yeah, that never happens. *eyeroll*

[lnlmandrake]

I'm actually in a situation where my husband stays home, and if we ever divorce he'll get alimony. I don't mind because I don't plan on getting divorced, and regardless we've talked about and we're working on a postnup. He's given up a lot of opportunities to support my career, and I owe him the opportunity to help him get back into the work force if he needs to.

[kibbles]

Yeah we keep taking turns. I supported him, then we had kids and he supports me and starting September my turn to go to school, and his retirement age will be a decade before mine.

[icecreamempress]

That woman is a fucking sexist. Assuming that the poster "doesn't need" the alimony AGREED TO IN HER DIVORCE because she has a boyfriend? WTF?

In many divorces, people choose alimony payments over a set number of years rather than a liquidation of all marital assets and a division of the proceeds. It's especially common in situations where one (or both) partners owns a business, because it's often a lot more advisable to keep a business intact and pay an agreed-upon yearly amount to the non-business-owner rather than sell it and divide the proceeds.

Since the ex in this situation is a doctor, it may be something similar with the medical practice. In any case, one assumes he has a lawyer, so if it was ZOMG UNFAIRS that would have been the time to deal with it.

[icecreamempress]

Also, I should say that I know three people who pay alimony to exes. Two are women.

[blondebeaker]

My mother's boyfriend is getting alimony from his ex. (that whole divorce is one huge soap opera)