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[squeakywheel]

I’m experiencing a low. I am extremely depressed and although I’m trying to reach out to friends, I actually feel a much stronger desire to curl up in the fetal position than to fight off the depression with social contact. I suppose that’s pretty bad then

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[neonleonb]

Actually, that's not so confusing. If you recall, I have this idea that people are forced into roles. For instance, when one person throws a temper tantrum, the other one *has* to be adult, or else no one will and things will get bad. You base your decisions on what to do in part on what you expect from the other person

[squeakywheel]

And, on the issue of money, you saw that once we were making money, I wasn't spending it like it seemed I would. I may have dreamed of furniture and a big house but I wasn't willing to go out and buy it all. I put a lot of constraints on those things and never really spent a lot of money with you. But, yes, I remember your concerns. That's a good analogy.

And thank you. This makes very good sense and makes me feel better. Should I just be open and tell him that you offered me this advice or should I change my behaviors accordingly? I feel like I'm too honest to just adjust the way I behave. It seems manipulative, almost. I'd almost rather he know that I have new insight thanks to you.

[prophetess666]

I know I'm commenting way late, cuz I'm quite behind, but it seems a tiny bit like you and I are going through similar things men wise right now. Obviously your relationship with Chris is more progressed than mine is, but it really seems kind of similar situations. It sucks, you have my sympathies hon :)