Losing Her

[redslime]

It feels like it. She is so distant, and I cannot seem to reach her to make any contact. I can’t imagine what it is like to want distance like that. Even when I knew I wanted out of a relationship I never felt that kind of distance. When I left my first wife I had to learn to keep a great distance because she would violate my boundaries. I am

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[anonymous]

You have described my position correctly, in the sense of the house being the penultimate loss in a series of losses. There is nothing that will happen this weekend that will change my position on this. If we sell the house, which I understand we will, our relationship is over for me. I am willing to be in relationship as a friend, but I want my boundaries respected. When I don't feel that they are being respected, I withdraw as a method of dealing with something I can't seem to communicate effectively to you - given that the same things keep cropping up.

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[redslime]

I get that you feel this is the end of the road for you. I can't know that until it really happens. As far as this weekend it just feels like the penultimate moment to me. I make no sense of what is happening, has happened, to us, i.e. it does not come in as a sensible thing.

I will enjoy the weekend, no matter if it changes us or not, I am sure it will change each of us in any case.

I'm looking forward to becoming your friend, either again or for the first time, I'm not sure.

rs