Info Post: The Post Cosmo Wishes It Could Be

[lickety_split]

WOMEN'S HEALTH POST: SEX ED FOR WOMEN (aka TMI Post)

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[lickety_split]

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[kitbug]

TANGENTIALLY RELATED? IDK. (A)sexuality stuff.

So, it's no big secret in my life that I'm asexual. But I still like to fantasize and/or watch/read porn. I still have a sex drive. It's just... directed at absolutely nothing, so I take care of it myself. This weirds my friends out to no end when the subject comes up.

Also, the next person who tells I can't possibly be asexual if I'm a virgin and don't know if I would like it or not can go fuck themselves with the business end of a rake.

[temperance_k]

+1

I once had a friend blab to a new friend that I identified as asexual (which was funny, because the friend who blabbed had only heard about it from a third friend--I never directly told her), and I was advised to "try masturbation to make sure you actually don't like sex!!"

When I told new friend that some asexual people DO masturbate, his brain basically short-circuited.

It's sad how my most open-minded friends get weirded out by me. :/

[maladaptive]

When I told new friend that some asexual people DO masturbate, his brain basically short-circuited.

Well clearly if you do it alone, you MUST be okay doing it with someone else, too!

Yeah, explaining asexuality to people has been really hard because they just don't get the difference between libido and sexual attraction. They are distinct things, dammit!

[mariechan]

I tried explaining it to my dad because that was something my ex had and it was one of the reasons our relationship didn't work out.

He doesn't even think there's such a thing as being asexual. :/

[smilingskull]

I won't lie, I may have skipped over a few sections to get to the next Rihanna pic/gif. >_> But I promise I'm going back to read everything now!

[poetic_pixie_13]

IKR? They're distracting. >.>

[shellazure]

What video are the pink ones from? I haven't seen it and now I'm ~intrigued.

[elialshadowpine]

I would like to know this too because I thought I had seen all of them!

[maladaptive]

Nothing about clitoral vibes? Not even the awesome siri? I know the article says wands can be used on the clit, but there are also vibrators specific for just that purpose.

Though the idea that an orgasm --> explosion of pleasure is part of why a lot of women orgasm and don't realize that's what's happening. Someone once described it as an involuntary action, like a sneeze, and that's when the lightbulb went off over my head.

[maladaptive]

Haha, I dunno if they quoted Spears, but the someone I was thinking of was from The Hairpin.

[origamicage]

The Nea from Lelo is pretty good too.

I also use the Wahl back massager when I can't sleep, and just need an orgasm, because apparently that helps me sleep. The Wahl is pretty intense and it doesn't take that long.

[poetic_pixie_13]

Ugh, this post when I have to leave in ten minutes. ;_________;

Flawless post, as always, bb. <3

ALSO TMI TIME. Erm. I've never actually orgasmed. I find that there's either the build-up and then it just... stops. OR it gets too intense and I have to stop. I'd like to figure out how to solve this but I still enjoy masturbation and sex so even if I can't figure out I still have funtimes.

Speaking of which, I need to get laid. -_-

[lickety_split]

and I have to stop.

DON'T STOP GURL, SHIT'S REALLY BOUT TO HIT THE FAN IN ABOUT 3 SECONDS.

[poetic_pixie_13]

I KNOW BUT, LIKE, IT'S ALMOST TOO INTENSE? IDK IDK.

;_______;

I think it's partly because I have a hard time physically relaxing (I sometimes am physically tense and I don't realize it), and just 'letting go.' Idk, I know that part of it is not thinking about orgasming and just letting it happen but it's hard for me to just shut my brain off like that.

[lickety_split]

Some orgasms REQUIRE that you scream and your body is clearly trying to have one so GIT IT!