My coming out story is not very extraordinary, but here goes anyway:
First I told my sister and a friend. After that, I came out to the rest of my friends and acquaintances and family in a status on FB. (It was triggered by this huge, chaotic debate that was going on in my newsfeed during the height of the Chick Fil A thing...I was so fed up with all of the idiocy that I just blabbed. It felt like I was using it as my "trump card" almost. lol) Nothing much came of it, which I didn't mind at all, tbh.
Well, I did have to delete a lot of homophobic ex-teachers and "friends" from my list...but still- not bad!
I'm going into a relatively public career (writing) and already have a professional blog, and I'm extremely leery of coming out. Not on a professional level- hell, I'm already writing queer-themed fiction, so outing myself would be the next logical step. But I'm not out to my parents. I don't know either way about my mom, but my dad sighs and rolls his eyes whenever stuff about queer people comes up on tv or the news, complains that "I don't want to see that!!" and once asked me point-blank if I was queer. (I denied it.) I doubt they'd ever throw me out or cut me off, but . . . I don't want to deal with it. But it'll only become a bigger worry if I get published and have to talk about queerness in interviews.
I've only said I was bi at work once... and it'll likely be the last time. At the time, it related to the conversation about some event going on (we have a lot of gay pride stuff going on in Tampa/Ybor). But apparently, being bi doesn't just mean that you're open to same-gender partners; it actually means that you'll have sex with everyone, at any time, anywhere, all the time. One of my (female) managers took it as an invitation to text me an invite to sleep with her and her boyfriend. I declined. Suddenly, my hours were cut, no one would work with me, and a new rumour cropped up about me sleeping with another female employee- a minor, as well. One of the other managers (a guy, surprisingly) tried to stop this BS, but the damage was already done. I ended up finding another job.
My friends know. I just don't think people at work need to know. It's a power issue.
If you decide to come out at work, more power to you! I hope it works out. Just try to be prepared for any potential negative fallout. Good luck to you!
<3 No worries. In retrospect, that was a toxic job anyways. It just took all that drama to be done with it!
I want there to be a day when you can be 'out' any damn place you please, and where your job is defined and retained by how well you do it, not who you like to sleep with. It'll be a long time coming, but it's worth pushing for, right?
You wouldn't be the first queer person to get annoyed by that. I go back and forth on it myself, because sometimes I believe they're genuinely trying to advertise that allies exist in the world.... and sometimes they're clearly aiming for cookies.
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My coming out story is not very extraordinary, but here goes anyway:
First I told my sister and a friend. After that, I came out to the rest of my friends and acquaintances and family in a status on FB. (It was triggered by this huge, chaotic debate that was going on in my newsfeed during the height of the Chick Fil A thing...I was so fed up with all of the idiocy that I just blabbed. It felt like I was using it as my "trump card" almost. lol)
Nothing much came of it, which I didn't mind at all, tbh.
Well, I did have to delete a lot of homophobic ex-teachers and "friends" from my list...but still- not bad!
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My friends know. I just don't think people at work need to know. It's a power issue.
If you decide to come out at work, more power to you! I hope it works out. Just try to be prepared for any potential negative fallout. Good luck to you!
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I want there to be a day when you can be 'out' any damn place you please, and where your job is defined and retained by how well you do it, not who you like to sleep with. It'll be a long time coming, but it's worth pushing for, right?
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