I've only said I was bi at work once... and it'll likely be the last time. At the time, it related to the conversation about some event going on (we have a lot of gay pride stuff going on in Tampa/Ybor). But apparently, being bi doesn't just mean that you're open to same-gender partners; it actually means that you'll have sex with everyone, at any time, anywhere, all the time. One of my (female) managers took it as an invitation to text me an invite to sleep with her and her boyfriend. I declined. Suddenly, my hours were cut, no one would work with me, and a new rumour cropped up about me sleeping with another female employee- a minor, as well. One of the other managers (a guy, surprisingly) tried to stop this BS, but the damage was already done. I ended up finding another job.
My friends know. I just don't think people at work need to know. It's a power issue.
If you decide to come out at work, more power to you! I hope it works out. Just try to be prepared for any potential negative fallout. Good luck to you!
<3 No worries. In retrospect, that was a toxic job anyways. It just took all that drama to be done with it!
I want there to be a day when you can be 'out' any damn place you please, and where your job is defined and retained by how well you do it, not who you like to sleep with. It'll be a long time coming, but it's worth pushing for, right?
I want there to be a day when you can be 'out' any damn place you please, and where your job is defined and retained by how well you do it, not who you like to sleep with. It'll be a long time coming, but it's worth pushing for, right?
Abso-fucking-lutely
I want there to be a day when you don't have to "come out" because no one cares what you do in your bedroom (or the living room or kitchen or...)
I'm sorry that happened to you. I think the only way to get through it is to, as you said, know you were escaping a toxic place. Not much help when you're trying to cover the bills though. :(
Totes not their business - it just gets hard when you're bonding with a coworker, sharing stories and experiences, and realizing you're having to edit your life to not drop certain information.
I'm out at work but have a very stable job *knocks wood* in a pretty progressive field (public libraries). I wasn't when I was temping or min. wage because it simply didn't feel safe.
I don't know if there's a norm. I start out talking about my wife and kids and the onus is on my coworkers to deal, you know? I'm also very fortunate to have great coworkers and supervisors.
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My friends know. I just don't think people at work need to know. It's a power issue.
If you decide to come out at work, more power to you! I hope it works out. Just try to be prepared for any potential negative fallout. Good luck to you!
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I want there to be a day when you can be 'out' any damn place you please, and where your job is defined and retained by how well you do it, not who you like to sleep with. It'll be a long time coming, but it's worth pushing for, right?
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Abso-fucking-lutely
I want there to be a day when you don't have to "come out" because no one cares what you do in your bedroom (or the living room or kitchen or...)
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lol @ seeing you use this dancing Ovechkin gif, HOCKEY GIFS ARE BEST GIFS
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also yes, lollllll ovie
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I don't know if there's a norm. I start out talking about my wife and kids and the onus is on my coworkers to deal, you know? I'm also very fortunate to have great coworkers and supervisors.
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