Yes people should behave in public but i genuinely wonder why people who value privacy or dont want fame chose a career path like singer or actor. Because what are they hoping happens? Its not a secret that these careers come with a lack of privacy. If they want to be behind the scenes, why not go that route?
Most working musicians and working actors never see fame, and definitely not the levels of fame she achieved. A successful musician is somebody who makes enough money with their art to get by (usually very modestly) and gets invited to play gigs regularly, having millions of fans happens very, very rarely.
Warning somebody "don't be a singer if you don't want to be famous" is warning them about something with a one in a million chance of happening.
She was agreeing to perform at huge and popular festivals right before she blew up. They werent gigs. It seems like she was actively seeking out fame… singers who prefer to stay under the radar or underground wouldnt expose themselves at a festival.
iirc one of the festivals she played recently had to move her from a smaller stage to the main stage because she blew up. all the acts in small font on festival lineup announcements have enough fans to be seen but not enough to be a headliner.
the dream of making a living with your art is enough of a reason to chase it. tbh it's so easy to say fame sucks and walk away from this side, but if i got the opportunity to live my dream and pay the bills with being creative and see great success i would really really hesitate to say no.
plus i think it's impossible to know what that kind of treatment feels like until you experience it.
She also made some tiktoks on this topic. People are throwing a fit about her comments (proving she's right). Some dude on Reddit who claimed to work for Janet Jackson and Drake made like 10 angry posts about her being the start of classless celebs era or something. Lol.
But some of her own fans are also missing the point badly, saying things like "She's not saying she doesn't want to be stopped by fans on the street, she just wants us to know she might say no". Stop bothering a person who clearly doesn't like to be bothered, people. She's not going to suddenly love it when you do it, you're not special.
i really feel for her and i'm glad she's speaking up
i think there is a real likelihood that she will just fuck off and live in a castle with a bunch of cats like enya and she will be COMPLETELY justified in doing so
these unhinged fans have no idea the real damage they are inflicting and it honestly scares me
I mean they don't really know anything about her, they know her stage persona. Relating to someone's music (personal or otherwise) and going to their shows doesn't make you any closer to them.
that's the thing. they think they know her because her music resonates but it's not the entire contents of who she is as a person. and her actually being a person gets lost in her fans making her into a piece of iconography.
the closest thing i can think of relating it to my own life is if someone came up and told me they looooove my ontd comments and bring up stuff i posted years ago. like yes, those comments and whatever i said was mine, but that's a very small part of my life and it doesn't mean they know me or who i am/
the reality is she doesn't know them and her fans don't know her personally. they just think they know her through their parasocial relationship with her stage persona and her work.
Also, feeling slightly melancholic today, but how wild is it that you can be a critically acclaimed artist who's the current hot topic and so far hasn't really gotten any negative press, and still you can't convince people (ones who supposedly love you) to respect even those very simple boundaries (that would require 0 effort and work from them). Then there really is no hope for the rest of us.
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Warning somebody "don't be a singer if you don't want to be famous" is warning them about something with a one in a million chance of happening.
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iirc one of the festivals she played recently had to move her from a smaller stage to the main stage because she blew up. all the acts in small font on festival lineup announcements have enough fans to be seen but not enough to be a headliner.
the dream of making a living with your art is enough of a reason to chase it. tbh it's so easy to say fame sucks and walk away from this side, but if i got the opportunity to live my dream and pay the bills with being creative and see great success i would really really hesitate to say no.
plus i think it's impossible to know what that kind of treatment feels like until you experience it.
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But some of her own fans are also missing the point badly, saying things like "She's not saying she doesn't want to be stopped by fans on the street, she just wants us to know she might say no". Stop bothering a person who clearly doesn't like to be bothered, people. She's not going to suddenly love it when you do it, you're not special.
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the tiktoks are in the post, lol
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(I saw the photos... but not the TikToks, oop@me)
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i think there is a real likelihood that she will just fuck off and live in a castle with a bunch of cats like enya and she will be COMPLETELY justified in doing so
these unhinged fans have no idea the real damage they are inflicting and it honestly scares me
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that's the thing. they think they know her because her music resonates but it's not the entire contents of who she is as a person. and her actually being a person gets lost in her fans making her into a piece of iconography.
the closest thing i can think of relating it to my own life is if someone came up and told me they looooove my ontd comments and bring up stuff i posted years ago. like yes, those comments and whatever i said was mine, but that's a very small part of my life and it doesn't mean they know me or who i am/
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