Zoë Kravitz Opens Up About Not Wanting to Have Children

[hewontgo]

Zoë Kravitz Opens Up About Not Wanting to Have Children https://t.co/fGzn5bUZ5n
- Harper’s BAZAAR (@harpersbazaarus) August 16, 2024

“For a long time, I felt like there was something wrong with me. I was waiting for this light to go off in my head, and it never did. When you’re younger, you’re like, ‘Well, I can’t have kids. I’m too young! It’d be

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[lamppost1911]

People are so weird about not just having kids, but being “traditional” about it, for lack of a better explanation. My friend and her now husband were together for 10 years before getting married yet the moment they did everyone was asking where the kids are. He jokingly posted about her popsicle obsession on Facebook and soooo many people commented “omg pregnancy cravings??!?!?!” It was so annoying.

[benihime99]

it's so absurd
One of my coworkers got sick and "because" she's 30 people automatically assumed she was pregnant
She just had a cold ffs

[lamppost1911]

Ugh that’s the woooorst. Something similar happened to me. I wore a bunch of cheap ass rings back in the day on almost all my fingers, including on the traditional wedding ring finger, and one day I was sick at work and two people assumed I was pregnant and I go “what?? I’m not even dating anyone!” but I guess because I wore a $1 Forever21 ring and was sick that meant I was engaged and pregnant??

It’s soooo weird.

[evilgerbil]

My mom used to do that with me. Any time I had a stuffy nose or was feeling under the weather, it was "You're not pregnant, are you??" I honestly thought she was going to yell at me when I got pregnant even though I was 40, because she'd spent so long telling me I better not be pregnant.

[champagnexdream]

Hopefully she's an "I don't want kids" adult and not an annoying childfree one who projects her (justified) anger about societal expectations onto people who do choose/are able to be parents. I know way too many of those

[lamppost1911]

There’s a Substack author I used to follow who basically made that her entire personality and I had to unfollow. I choose to be child free and even I was like “omfg, stfu, come up with something at least interesting!”

[champagnexdream]

It's sf weird to me! I have friends and fam without kids who aren't weird about being around my kid and love her like they love me, and others who are super avoidant and I'm like um, she's part of my life and an extension of me?

It's not like we are the kinds of parents who do nothing without her - we will get a babysitter or leave her with my brother (who doesn't have kids yet but isn't ~childfree~ and loves her/wants to spend time with her) - for outings here and there.

But there's a big difference between like, my bro and my bro-in-law, whom I don't think has willingly hugged or picked up my kid once lol. I know it's not his kid and tbh it doesn't bug me as much but I know it bugs my husband and that makes me sad. Ofc people can do what they want but grown adults have a kid ick is so strange to me

[lamppost1911]

It’s so funny reading this because I used to be so good with kids and was basically a big kid myself and they all flocked to me but the past few years, I just don’t know how to interact with them? I mean, I still do and my best friends’ kids will NOT leave me alone when I visit, lol. But it’s like I’m a robot sometimes but I definitely still hug them back or play when needed. Maybe that’s it? They just don’t how to act?

I used to be soooo good at playing “pretend” but I almost blew Santa’s cover when my friend was using this Christmas decor I had as a walkie talkie to Santa in front of his kids 😂😂😂

[yousaidlog]

I can relate. At best I just felt on the fence regarding having children and was waiting for that switch to turn on. Then between my pediatric semester in grad school and getting older, the thought of being a parent fills me with such dread so I'm just going to stick with my cats.

[automaticpeople]

I still remember the time a friend told me it would be sad if we died in a car crash (we were driving at the time), because I wasn’t married with kids. We were about 24. She was divorced and with the guy she cheated with, had one kid with him and suffered from physical and mental medical issues as a result. She couldn’t even pee without being in pain. It was sad I didn’t have all of that.

[therearewords]

.. that's a lot of information to take in.

[automaticpeople]

[anterrabre]

Wow. Misery really loves company. :(

[mistressboy]

I have one child and I am so happy to be her mother. I always thought I’d want two but it’s been nearly four years and I’m still nowhere close to being ready for another. For me it was like a switch flipping, I just went from being not ready to being very ready for a baby and that switch hasn’t flipped again yet.

[champagnexdream]

I feel this. I have one embryo still frozen and my daughter just turned 3 and we want to try the transfer next spring and I don't feel ready right now either tbh and it's kind scaring me because I'll be 40 in March