The Cruel Lie of "Friends"

[ellie_andrews]

The average US adult moves 11.7 times and changes jobs around 12 times in their lifetimes.

Surveys find that millennials in particular are lonelier than they’ve ever been.

Adult friendships don't happen the way they do on TV, and that's perfectly normal. https://t.co/TFImuKUucs
- Vox (@voxdotcom) May 28, 2021
** we've long understood that tv & movies

Comments

[green_monsterx]

As a teen and in my early 20’s, I definitely had a lot of friends that I hung out with all the time, and large groups of us, too. Now, I can’t imagine ever having that many friends or hanging out in that way again, tbh lol. I am definitely not a group hang kind of person anymore; I prefer one on one friendships and hang outs over like dinner, where we just talk and spend hours doing that versus going out getting drunk and stupid.

My BFF also lives in LA while I’m in NYC, so our friendship essentially boils down to hours on the phone and tbh, we are closer now via our phone convos than we were when he lived here and we saw each other very frequently (we originally worked together and after I found a new job, we had dinner every Friday)

[purrple_267]

I don't have conflicts with my friends, but it's definitely hard to make plans with them now, especially the married ones with kids. I now have only one friend I can meet in person somewhat easily. The other one moved to a different country. This was all true before covid. I'm in Europe.

[merel_93]

I recently moved into my first apartment with my bf and had my core group of girlfriends over (we´ve been friends around a decade) and after they left, all I really kept thinking is how we really don´t have deep friendships and yeah, that´s not a great feeling

[ellie_andrews]

I really kept thinking is how we really don´t have deep friendships and yeah, that´s not a great feeling

i have 2 best friends and one of them is my sister lol. but i do wonder if i could have a deeper friendship w the other one or if i'm overthinking it. idk :\

[ellumination]

I’ve felt this way but have accepted that some of my friendships will never be how they used to be when we were younger again, and that’s fine, we will always love eachother and maybe find eachother in the same place again (life-wise) in the future.

[senshicalico]

I know things can go the exact opposite way, but I'm kinda jealous of people who have sisters if only because I'd love a built-in friend, lol.Instead I had stepbrothers who don't acknowledge my existence.

[lozbabie]

I play sport so I see my friends a lot. But out of season it’s a lot less.

I love my friends. They’re so important to me

[nigelwitthebrie]

I am 36 years old and I literally have no friends..."work friends" don't really count cuz we are forced to get along with each through professionalism and HR lol.....yeah FRIENDS definitely sold us a fairy tale of adult friendships

[sarahvma]

I definitely don't consider "work friends" friends unless we hang out outside of work.

[nigelwitthebrie]

Same. Like if we don't hang outside of work then you are nothing more than basically a co-existence of my work habitat.

[messfortwo]

I used to hang out with them outside of work and I still wouldn't call them my friends lol, more like acquaintances.