The Cruel Lie of "Friends"

[ellie_andrews]

The average US adult moves 11.7 times and changes jobs around 12 times in their lifetimes.

Surveys find that millennials in particular are lonelier than they’ve ever been.

Adult friendships don't happen the way they do on TV, and that's perfectly normal. https://t.co/TFImuKUucs
- Vox (@voxdotcom) May 28, 2021
** we've long understood that tv & movies

Comments

[merel_93]

I recently moved into my first apartment with my bf and had my core group of girlfriends over (we´ve been friends around a decade) and after they left, all I really kept thinking is how we really don´t have deep friendships and yeah, that´s not a great feeling

[ellie_andrews]

I really kept thinking is how we really don´t have deep friendships and yeah, that´s not a great feeling

i have 2 best friends and one of them is my sister lol. but i do wonder if i could have a deeper friendship w the other one or if i'm overthinking it. idk :\

[ellumination]

I’ve felt this way but have accepted that some of my friendships will never be how they used to be when we were younger again, and that’s fine, we will always love eachother and maybe find eachother in the same place again (life-wise) in the future.

[senshicalico]

I know things can go the exact opposite way, but I'm kinda jealous of people who have sisters if only because I'd love a built-in friend, lol.Instead I had stepbrothers who don't acknowledge my existence.

[green_monsterx]

Yeah, I kinda think that’s the issue as I got older. I used to have a lot of friends and hang out in groups, but in retrospect, none of those relationships were super deep. They were superficial and we just enjoyed having fun and going out and being young and stupid together, but as we grew and matured, we splintered away. I only have 3 or 4 people now I would really consider close friends

[bossm]

I always understood that most people are just spending time together without being real friends. That could be the reason why I don’t have many friends. I’m treating them that way.

[mzgrottesca]

Same here. I tend to go into my friendships with people half cocked. I just don't expect much from ppl.

[glitterslugs]

Yeah none of my friendships were ever deep and tho i do have a couple that are life long and can meet up whenever i want to i suddenly get locked up with anxiety and think “what do i even have to say to them?”