The Cruel Lie of "Friends"

[ellie_andrews]

The average US adult moves 11.7 times and changes jobs around 12 times in their lifetimes.

Surveys find that millennials in particular are lonelier than they’ve ever been.

Adult friendships don't happen the way they do on TV, and that's perfectly normal. https://t.co/TFImuKUucs
- Vox (@voxdotcom) May 28, 2021
** we've long understood that tv & movies

Comments

[mwffj]

30 year old TV show remains outdated and obsolete, news at 11.

[vanouria]

lmao ifk

[mwffj]

This is like having article after article about how M*A*S*H uses outdated medical procedures.

[cosmic_starz]

Let's not even get started on how Rachel and Monica could afford that purple apartment on their incomes.. 🙄

[sarahvma]

I moved a lot as a kid, so I never really had the same friends for more than about 2-3 years at a time until I hit college. tbh, it made it easier to transition into adulthood and to learn to make new friendships fast at different workplaces.

[sandstorm]

Same tbh.

[madamezuzu]

same. great at making short term friends, but never mastered how to maintain once you don’t see them every day anymore.

[bossm]

That’s my problem. I lose contact so fast.

[melancolour]

Lmao this is BS. You need to maintain friendships deliberately, but it's not some impossible task? You're closer to the ones who you live in the same city with, sure, but that's it.

"Real friendships are rife with conflict, separations, jealousies, and reconciliations. They are relationships like any other, stretching through their growing pains and sometimes snapping from the stress of ongoing tension. But none of that ever seems to make it to a television screen."

1. That's what happened on friends and 2. Is not true at all for my friendships. Get better friends, writer!

[cbluechicken]

I mean, it's true in a sense. You're never going to see eye to eye with people you're friends with. It's about knowing if it's worth getting through, how you communicate what's going on, respecting boundaries etc etc. All the things I feel like people only put on romantic relationships which is partly the issue. I remember one time a girl I knew in college was like "friends are just placeholders for boyfriends" and now her whole life revolves just around him yikes.

[war_machine_rox]

"friends are just placeholders for boyfriends"

Oh that just made me so sad for her. That sounds terribly lonely :(

[cbluechicken]

tbh, she was an asshole who made lots of racist comment so I ended my friendship w her my junior year. ha suffer

[a_files06]

Cruel lie of 99% of shows

I had a decent circle in my early 20s, now I talk to 4-5 people on the regular. Just moved and....making friends in a new city is....hard. My co-workers are mainly people w/families.

[nigelwitthebrie]

Agreed about moving as an adult and trying to make friends in a new city or town....I moved to Las Vegas when I was 25 years old....been living here for 15 plus years and I can honestly say no one in this city is considered a friend to me.

[weighty_ghost]

I remember a few years ago a friend of mine (who lives in a different city) told me I needed friends that werent work friends, and I was just like... where do I meet people other than at work?? I'm in my 30s. My high school friends either moved away or arent friends anymore because we're not 16 (i live in a town where a lot of people stayed and kept their friendships, while I moved away and lost touch for the most part and when I came back was out of the friend groups). My university friends were all out of towners so I'm friends with some still but we're across provinces