me and jealousy

[nminusone]

At first I thought only fatesfolly was going to reply to my post asking about jealousy, but a couple more have trickled in too. Anyone else? I'm curious to hear how people feel.

For myself it's pretty rare that I feel any strong or persistent jealousy, but it does happen and the past year or so has given me ample motivation to think about why.

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[kellfire]

What jealousy I do have is due to low self esteem too.

My feelings come out more as insecurity than jealousy and I've been trying to figure out how to put that into words to answer your post. It's definitely due to low self-esteem though. And I am finding this even stronger with a primary SO (which is a new thing for me) and with their new relationships (established one's don't cause nearly the insecurity that new one's do)

I haven't quite put my finger on what triggers the insecurity though. I know time would be a big one, as I believe would fluid bonding. Most often I've noticed my insecurity flaring up when other area's of my life are insecure (work, kids, home) - and that's on me, not the other person.

[anotheranon]

I've got to admit that my own jealousies come out of low self esteem as well - it feeds the niggling fear that I'm easily replaceable or not all that interesting.

Still trying to sort out just what the triggers are, though your observation that insecurity in one area of life can easily bleed into another makes a lot of sense.

[kytynpet]

This is such a twisty windy concept/word/feeling that it would take me much key pounding to elaborate. But I will! Great topic/conversation starter :)