At first I thought only fatesfolly was going to reply to my post asking about jealousy, but a couple more have trickled in too. Anyone else? I'm curious to hear how people feel.

For myself it's pretty rare that I feel any strong or persistent jealousy, but it does happen and the past year or so has given me ample motivation to think about why.
( What makes me jealous. Long, abstract and probably dull. )

Today I finally figured out why I have so few male friends. For me, the core of a friendship is communication, especially communication about feelings. Most guys I know just aren't into that. With most of my guy friends the friendship is based on common interests, shared values or activities we both enjoy. These things are fine, but I never really ( Read more... )

Something vvalkyri said last night reminded me of the "What makes it dating?" question: Baggage. That nicely sums up what I was trying to say. If we are dating then I can reasonably expect you to deal with my baggage, and vice versa. If those aren't reasonable expectations, then we're not dating. This is a necessary but not sufficient condition; I have ( Read more... )

The other day I wrote about being reasonable. I don't often find situations where I need to be reasonable (outside of work, which is another story entirely), but when they do pop up it's not unusual for me to "reasonable" myself into an unpleasant spot. Usually there's a boiled frog nature to the situation, and I don't realize how hot it is until ( Read more... )

Something much on my mind lately: what is dating, exactly? When do you say you're dating someone ( Read more... )

So I realized I'm doing this LJ thing all wrong. I'm supposed to be making deep, introspective posts about Things I Need To Figure Out, with a side of What Does It All Mean. It's not that I don't think about those things, but I realized that I deal with most issues like that by thinking about them and talking about them with people I'm close to. So ( Read more... )