Sometimes I get the urge to reconnect with people who've been out of my life. I always have at least one person in mind but I usually don't do anything until the mood strikes, then I typically seek out a few people at once. The mood sometimes includes reaching out to newer friends, people I don't know that well yet. It might seem like the mood is ( Read more... )

Do you like to explain yourself, or do you just let people make their own assumptions about your feelings, motivations and reasoning?

How do you feel when someone asks you to explain yourself?

Do you like it when other people spontaneously explain themselves, or does it seem irrelevant to you?

( As for me... )

As we get to know and love someone, it seems like some of us start with the details and work up to the big picture, and others start with the big picture and work down to the details ( Read more... )

I had an engaging conversation with margoeve yesterday evening, about logic, persuasion and Adbusters. Afterwards I wondered if my Asperger's gives me an atypical perspective on advertising, and persuasion in general ( Read more... )

I usually treat the act of scheduling social time as an interaction between friends. This seems typical but can make things harder when you have to disappoint, say by cancelling, because you're disappointing a friend. If it makes things easier I'm also perfectly happy to be businesslike and unemotional about it. This may be unusual in a social ( Read more... )

Someone on my flist wrote about friendships and got me thinking about mine. (I'm keeping their post anonymous in case I'm unintentionally misrepresenting it.) Sie talked about having many acquaintances but fewer close friends, about many people sie only sees in groups where it's hard to get to know any one person well, and about being so busy with ( Read more... )

At first I thought only fatesfolly was going to reply to my post asking about jealousy, but a couple more have trickled in too. Anyone else? I'm curious to hear how people feel.

For myself it's pretty rare that I feel any strong or persistent jealousy, but it does happen and the past year or so has given me ample motivation to think about why.
( What makes me jealous. Long, abstract and probably dull. )

Today I finally figured out why I have so few male friends. For me, the core of a friendship is communication, especially communication about feelings. Most guys I know just aren't into that. With most of my guy friends the friendship is based on common interests, shared values or activities we both enjoy. These things are fine, but I never really ( Read more... )

geekchick and I walked around the lake again tonight. This time there were several gooses and a fuzzle of goose babies! ('fuzzle' is cuter than 'gaggle', and they were fuzzy, so there!) There were 19 of them, at least depending on the exact definition of 19, which is not clear at this time. The babies were being herded around by 2 adults (we are sure what ( Read more... )

"Everything that has a beginning has an end." - The Oracle, The Matrix Revolutions

k3llya has a dangerous talent. In conversation she instinctively knows what it is you most want to talk about but are afraid to. A therapist might slowly work around to these issues, edging towards them ever so gently, but k3llya has a combination of excitability and ( Read more... )