I'd be curious as to where I fall in your perceptions, because on one hand I have never considered myself especially "girly", but I do naturally and pretty consistently identify as straight... although no part of my brain objects to the idea of sex with women, I have trouble thinking of myself in a long-term relationship with another woman, just because of me being me. And you know me... although for almost ten years now I have been living the basically stereotypical life of husband, daughter, and cats.
I've definitely always thought you had something of a butch vibe; it's one of the things I love about you, and connect with. Butch and genderqueer can be hard to differentiate, but I'd say you're clearly a woman with those traits, whereas I identify genderwise somewhere outside that. Not sure of that makes any sense or not. (and I've known a lot of butch women of all orientations, so I don't find that part weird at all).
And somehow I met a man who, although being raised in a very traditional (though very accepting) family and not really having any conscious understanding of the varieties of gender and such, has always been more than willing to accept the parts of me I do not feel like being feminine about... he is perfectly content with my complete disregard for body hair; he cheerfully shaves my head for me and then rubs my buzz-cut because he likes it. When I wanted to learn to target-shoot he thought it was great, and there's never been a time he wouldn't take me out in the woods with him to stomp through the mud and get filthy and look at dead animals and beaver dams and such
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That makes total sense to me.
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