I was asked a really good question about how gender plays out in my life in dating situations. This is my answer from that conversation, with some expansions and clarifications. It's also one of my more successful attempts to explain how deeply I perceive things in spectrums or venn diagrams, rather than dichotomies. That colors my thinking in a ( Read more... )

So. Yesterday I talked at great length about the place of masculinity in my head. Today, I think I'll talk about its place in my bed ( Read more... )

I'm still really not feeling very social, so just a few updates.

( In bullet point form )

Fair warning, this may be more explicit about my sexual desires than you want to read ( Read more... )

The reasons I hid my relationships and sexual involvements over the years are hugely complicated, and have been one of the bigger mindfucks in my life. It's taken a long time to sort out the multitude of often conflicting reasons that was such a strong pattern, most especially in middle and high school ( Read more... )

Updated with minor revisions, corrections, and expansions on 4/15/12. For anyone who doesn't know me, my perspective in evaluating books like this is largely informed by being a queer feminist sexuality educator* and reproductive rights activist with an interest in intersectionalityMy reviews are probably most useful for parents and other adults ( Read more... )

International Drag King Extravaganza XII, in Baltimore MD, Oct 20-24, now open for Registration! -- I will definitely be there, in combination with a visit to see K and T.

After twenty-five years of deliberation, the Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) Church Council has abolished its anti-gay policies, effective immediately. Following ( Read more... )

Still catching up on email, currently working my way through Feministing and Feministe:

Baltimore Archdiocese sues over ban on false advertising for crisis pregnancy centers
The Catholic Archdiocese of Baltimore is suing the city over an ordinance requiring area crisis pregnancy centers (CPCs) to post accurate information about the services they ( Read more... )

Girl Talk: Should I Be Jealous Of His Female Friends? -- it was the comments I found especially noteworthy, really. Although plenty of commenters express that they're ok with their partners having friends of a different gender, a large number seem to consider it so normal not to accept this that it's almost taken-for-granted (especially the ( Read more... )

Ended up doing a double shift last night due to a coworker in the ER, so I'm off this afternoon in exchange, and just woke up. Damn, is third shift quiet. Not just in terms of call volume, but in terms of chatter. 2nd usually has between two and five of us, depending on the day and the exact time, and it's full of laughter and chatting and ( Read more... )