I mentioned in my last post that I can't abide feeling hobbled ( Read more... )

My politics are so deeply interwoven with my kinks they're inseparable. I think it's already pretty obvious from other writings how feminism and queer activism and such have tied in pretty directly.

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So. Yesterday I talked at great length about the place of masculinity in my head. Today, I think I'll talk about its place in my bed ( Read more... )

Another cross-post from Fetlife, this one gets more graphic than some folks may prefer to read. Adding a cut-tag, since I'm not using filters on LJ anymore (because I'm using it to cross-post to FB -- *sigh* the trials of multiple social media platforms) I've added some contextual notes throughout to clarify, and anonymized any FL usernames that ( Read more... )

The recent split was prompted entirely by my need to be who I am, not by lack of love on either side. I'm grateful for the gentleness of it, but reeling from the loss. So now seems to be a good time to focus on being my full self again, figuring out who that is at this point in my life, with everything new I've learned about myself, good and bad. ( Read more... )

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My current "commute and break" audiobook is Speaking Sex to Power: The Politics of Queer Sex, by Patrick Califia. It's a collection of his late-nineties/early-2000s essays, just as he was really starting to transition, with some wonderful additionally contextualizing notes and introductions. His writings about both kink and parenthood are ( Read more... )

I was commenting to my partner and others that this weekend and being involved in the setup and support has really caused a huge jump in my overall sense of comfort and connection with the community. There's nothing like working with people during stressful times to create that, and it's something I enjoy immensely regardless of which of my ( Read more... )

(cross-posting here so it's accessible to folks who aren't on Fetlife, where I'm doing most of my writing about sexuality these days. Original post is here: https://fetlife.com/users/10935/posts/2913859Read more... )

From a conversation with a potential new lover, figured I'd move it over here since I know several folks would be interested. I'd like to emphasize, though, this is just what works for _me_. For truly useful educational material, nothing else I've seen beats A Hand in the Bush

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