Comments | montecristo: Is all fair in love and war?

montecristo

Is all fair in love and war?

Jul 18, 2004 12:58

Monday night I felt like a movie, so I shut down around 10:30, got my popcorn out and went to watch "Something to Talk About." Okay, this is something of a chick flick. I have a closet grudging respect for chick flicks, if they are done well. This one was interesting. The movie stars Denis Quaid and Julia Roberts as Eddie and Grace Bichon, a ( Read more... )

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tentacularone July 19 2004, 00:21:48 UTC

perhaps I'm merely ignorant of a genre, but I can't think of enough examples in literature of cheating spouse plot lines to make the generalizations you've got here (unless one counts daytime tv, which you never, ever should ( ... )

tentacularone July 19 2004, 00:22:03 UTC

Also, I don't understand this idea of divorce being a good thing for the woman. I know there are cases where a woman gets alimony, kids, a house, and the new guy, but from the (numerous) examples in my personal life, this seems quite rare. I have no statistics to back this up, but I know a lot (at least a dozen) of single mothers struggling to make ends meet and completely forgoing any hope of reentering the dating scene, and I can't think of one who is living the high life off of her ex-husband's success. I was raised by a single mother, and even though my dad paid child support, it didn't even remotely cover her needs for taking care of me - she often worked two jobs and had almost no social life ( ... )

Wow. That was interesting! montecristo July 19 2004, 01:44:12 UTC

You know, I think I'm going to take your statistics at face value with regard to whether men or wome cheat more often. It does match with the idea that men and women pursue different "biological strategies" with regard to sex -- the woman trying to find a stable mate who will care for her children and their home and the man attempting to spread his genetic material as far as possible. Eh. I'm not so sure of motivations and evolutionary drives, but culturally, I think you're right -- that double standard is the traditional one. I think that feminism though has made inroads on it. Surprisingly enough, I think much of modern feminism has done less to enlighten and elevate men but rather provide women a liscense to be just as uncouth and unethical as some of the more boorish men.

For what it's worth, I am one of those people who believes that sex is far too important to be indiscriminate or promiscuous about it. I believe that it is self-debasement to treat something like sex cavalierly. To be honest, my ex wasn't just "indulging ( ... )