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[jbmcdragon]

I didn't hit my writing deadline last night (my Sip was due), so I got up at 7 this morning to edit, polish, and send it early. It's now sent, will hopefully be picked up (I'll be SHOCKED if it isn't -- they said they needed people to write July 4 short stories, I emailed and asked if they still needed writers, and they said, "YES PLEASE WRITE ONE

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[glockgal]

Nooooo! Not the only one of the year! The year is still so young! And this was compelling because it's a feeling I've had before as well, but I never quite understood or thought about it (more like getoutofmymind getoutgetoutgetout) and so reading you break it down this way feels like a relief for me. Like whenever I'd feel icky about situations like it's I'd blame myself for being 'abnormal' and not just 'taking a compliment like a compliment!' Seriously, I hate playing by society rules, so much.

This put it into words, shameless words. *MWAH* I really appreciate that!

[jbmcdragon]

*LAUGHS!* Glock, you make me happy. :) You put lots of things into words for me, so I'm glad I could return the favor. ;)

J

[trishalynn]

I am very intrigued by this response, mostly because I had feminism on the mind due to the whole World Series of Poker thing I posted on the blog. Will definitely have to ruminate on this, but I definitely think that it's a very individual reaction on a woman-by-woman basis.

[jbmcdragon]

I'm sure it is -- but it also seems pretty prevalent. That, or the women who dislike it are noisy. ;)

J

[anonymous]

*eyeroll*. It's hard being pretty, internets! Trade ya.

[jbmcdragon]

Yeah, you're right. I should totally be made to feel like shit for being pretty.

J

[cosmicastaway]

*hugs* Hurray for a girlfriend!

I think that's really super cool. :D

(Disclaimer, I'm a sucker for same-sex partnerships. I really don't know why. Discussed this with my sister tonight as we walked from the coffee shop that kicked us out to my place in the rain.

I'm...by all accounts disinterested in both sexes, but completely a fangirl for boys and boys, and girls and girls.

I'm trying to be realistic about it, though. Not a jerk who is superfluous. <--secret fear here. I don't want to come across as cheap for being all "hurray, you're a girl with a girl

[jbmcdragon]

*DIES!* It's okay, I'm all pro male-male because, uh, I'm a faghag. In the nice sense of the term, not the nasty sense of the term. ;-D Either way, I'll take the happy! :D

Yeah. I think it was almost worse because I don't think he was trying to attack me, so I felt bad for feeling bad! At least now that I know why I reacted poorly, maybe next time it happens I can pull the guy aside and very nicely thank him for the intended compliment, and explain why the thank you isn't so great? Hmmm. We'll see. ;)

J

[jbmcdragon]

*LAUGHS!* I'm glad you read and were enlightened -- it actually means a lot to know that someone read and learned! That's even more awesome then never doing it in the first place. :D

J

Flirting 101: Chapter 2, Compliments: you can do it wrong.

[itcomesinphases]

I have been guilty of this sort of compliment as well and I honestly never realized that most every time I 'flirt' like that the girl reacts by laughing. In hindsight it's probably not a 'good' sort of laugh.

Though most of the time I compliment something about a girl that isn't part of the girl. Variations of "I love your earrings," or "I really just want to play with your necklace," are fairly common. I've never had anyone take this badly because instead of saying "Hey beautiful," which can make someone feel awkward, I've managed (hopefully) to make her feel beautiful and get her to come a bit closer to show off the object I've complimented.

ps. YOUR ICON MAKES ME IN SANE AMOUNTS OF HAPPY.