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I didn't hit my writing deadline last night (my Sip was due), so I got up at 7 this morning to edit, polish, and send it early. It's now sent, will hopefully be picked up (I'll be SHOCKED if it isn't -- they said they needed people to write July 4 short stories, I emailed and asked if they still needed writers, and they said, "YES PLEASE WRITE ONE
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I think that's really super cool. :D
(Disclaimer, I'm a sucker for same-sex partnerships. I really don't know why. Discussed this with my sister tonight as we walked from the coffee shop that kicked us out to my place in the rain.
I'm...by all accounts disinterested in both sexes, but completely a fangirl for boys and boys, and girls and girls.
I'm trying to be realistic about it, though. Not a jerk who is superfluous. <--secret fear here. I don't want to come across as cheap for being all "hurray, you're a girl with a girl.")
I'm happy for you for having someone. I'm also happy on the side because I'm a fangirl?
I'm rambling.
What makes me angry about that bit of sexism is that I feel that with this much awareness out in the world, you'd think the person calling you out--I got hit yesterday when I was carrying two jugs of cat litter home from the store and some guys from their porch complimented me on them--would have known better. That schools teach this stuff, and there's mentions of what constitutes for sexual harassment on television shows and in the media. You'd have to be on the moon under a rock not to understand it, but regardless, someone calls you out. And now it feels like a personal attack because if they knew what could constitute as harmful harassment, they intentionally did it anyways.
That's what pisses me off, rather than the actual implication. It's the choice. And it's also the unknowing. Because perhaps the person just is ignorant or unaware that what they did is an attack. Maybe they are innocent but stupid, or something. And yet now I feel directly assaulted because I believe they should know better.
What's further complicated is that there's no easy way to fix any single encounter. If you approach the person and say something like "I did not feel your statement as a compliment, but rather as degrading" you risk being seen as some kind of crazy "bitch" who is hyper-feminist, which is somehow a bad thing. Or you scare some ignorant, innocent guy who then feels bad all day, while you also continue to feel bad...there's no simple reset button. It's out there, and it's hanging over everyone.
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Now I'm all worked up. :/
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Yeah. I think it was almost worse because I don't think he was trying to attack me, so I felt bad for feeling bad! At least now that I know why I reacted poorly, maybe next time it happens I can pull the guy aside and very nicely thank him for the intended compliment, and explain why the thank you isn't so great? Hmmm. We'll see. ;)
J
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