Love Languages

[indigodaisy]

My mom has been fixating on the 5 love language stuff again. She asked my brother what was his and he said "Compliments" to which she freaked to because she never compliments him. She asked me and I said I must be greedy because I wanted more then one.

The five are: Quality Time, Gifts, Service, Compliments and Physical TouchI'd say I want

Comments

[cluelessinchi]

I love the concept of this post. Wow! you can pick 3?
1. Quality Time
2. Service
3. Physical Touch

[indigodaisy]

I guess you can pick as many as you want, its just about knowing what you prefer most so that others can give you want you desire. I guess its a normal reaction for people to give the love language they identify with most, which to their partner might not be what they are desiring to receive.

[cluelessinchi]

Did this come from a book? Where did your Mom come up with this?
I totally agree that one should know what they want. Service is not mandatory but it would be really nice. The others are not things that I would want to not have in a relationship. My needs would not be met then. I could not stay in a relationship where those two needs were not met.

[indigodaisy]

http://www.fivelovelanguages.com/

[kisekinotenshi]

My friend Eva told me about this a while ago. For her, Physical Touch is completely dominant over the others. If she isn't in a romantic relationship for more than a month or two, she has to resort to cuddling her friends or suffer a serious downshift emotionally. Which is why being in long-distance relationships was really bad for her (all her relationships on the East Coast were long-distance).

I think I took the quiz, but I forget which were more important to me. Probably Gifts, Service and Compliments. Because my dad taught me early on that money = love (which isn't really his fault, that's what his parents pounded into him from the beginning of his life).

[realmrpger]

She cuddles friends? I think I want to know her. XD

[kisekinotenshi]

Yes, and she has a large chest area as well. XD Most guys want to know her (she's also an amazing cook and totally no nonsense). Of course, not all of them are good enough for her (at least in the opinion of her loving bodyguards friends).

[dragonbelle]

i have totally read this book, and it's pretty awesome. actually, i read the "five love languages for singles" version, because its a little more open in the kind of relationships it discusses. it's all a little on the christian, god loves you, monogamy and no sex before marriage side for me, but if you ignore all that it's great.

mine is definitely physical touch, with words of affirmation (what 'compliments' are called in the books) coming in second. my problem is that i really suck at speaking any of the languages when it most counts, because the first thing i do is withdraw from my own primary language. it's a bitch, and i lose >_<.

[blue_sakura211]

Physical touch, definitely, although Compliments (I've heard them as "Words of Affirmation" too) are also important. I need to hear "I love you" once in a while. Quality time is right up there, too.

All in all, I think I'm a native speaker of the Physical Touch love language, and competent in some of the others, too. ;)

[wiggin_out]

For me I'd have to say quality time and physical touch, in fairly equal proportions. Words of Affirmation/compliments usually have an opposite effect on me because I believe actions speak louder than words, and thanks to low self-esteem, simply have trouble believing most good things people say about me. (I don't even know what exactly is meant by "service")

[indigodaisy]

service is like .. people doing things for you to show they care (like cleaning the house or making extra trips to the grocery store)